• folkrav@lemmy.ca
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    25 days ago

    I was raised in a relatively high wealth family. Not personal jet rich, but still rich enough that we were going on vacation to fancy places a lot, dad had pretty cars, a big house, we went on ski trips, and played golf, etc. My wife was raised by a single mother with a more or less absentee father, working where she could to raise her two girls.

    I already knew I was lucky and privileged, my parents kept telling my siblings and I, but it never really registered to me just how much. The skill I learned a lot about is empathy, I think.

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    25 days ago

    Not a girlfriend, but a date (that ultimately didn’t go anywhere). She was a teacher and I mentioned despite being a software engineer and having to take up to Calc 2 in university, I never actually learned long division. So, she taught me.

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      25 days ago

      Only up to calc 2?! Why did they make me take Calc 3, Numerical Analysis, Discrete Math, and Sets and Logic?!

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        25 days ago

        Some of those I understand complaining about but honestly Sets & Logic is a great class for a programmer. I wish that was in the standard math path so that everyone got a little of it in high school, the closest I got was doing proofs in geometry which while that is a sort of logic training it doesn’t really teach you how to make use of anything.

        Also, depending what you’re building exactly, advanced Calc and Numerical Analysis may be very useful and/or required to perform. Especially if you’re trying to accurately model something that happens in meatspace.

  • Vendetta9076@sh.itjust.works
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    25 days ago

    My wife taught me to cook and that I was allowed to have feelings. I taught her a bunch of computer stuff and that she was allowed to have feelings.

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      24 days ago

      I still can’t cook, but my wife definitely taught me that I’m allowed to have feelings; And most everything I know about expressing those feelings without being a complete asshole and without going straight from calm to rant-y.

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    25 days ago

    My first serious boyfriend taught me how to change the oil, change a tire, and rotate the tires on my car. Also that I don’t like anal.

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    25 days ago

    I recommend dating a chef long enough to learn how to cook, that is a super helpful skill

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    My ex (though really his mom i guess) taught me you can just run a half empty dishwasher. I grew up without a lot of money, so we weren’t running the dishwasher until it was full (big family, so pretty often). But when you’re one or two people, it never fills up so I was just hand washing dishes, hating my life. They ran the dishwasher every night no matter how full or empty it was. At 9pm, the dishwasher started. It’s stupid to say it changed my life, but now I just run it whenever I want. I also run my washing machine all the time and folding half loads is so much better, I no longer hate laundry.

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      24 days ago

      My wife was like this when we met. She also grew up more poor than me. I still see her washing a lot of stuff by hand that should be in the dishwasher. Old habits die hard. The unspoken agreement is when we run out of a utensil, or get down to one, we run the dishwasher.

      One thing my mom taught her through me is not putting good kitchen knives or any wood through the dishwasher.

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        24 days ago

        Also, wood utensils, cutting boards, etc. need oiling. Just cheap mineral oil should do.

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        24 days ago

        The dishwasher is generally more efficient than handwashing. It reuses the water, so you’re using less water. In terms of electricity usage, I’m seeing around 2 kWh for one load.

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            23 days ago

            Intuitively, I get it. But unless you just have a couple of dishes, it’s hard to beat a dishwasher.

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    My ex taught me how to crochet, which was pretty cool of her. I’ve always wanted to do stuff with yarn and having someone there to guide and correct me was so useful. I’m not sure I would have stuck with it if I tried to learn via online tutorials.