I think the important point to stress about how federated software works is that you can always host your own, or find an instance hosted by someone whose views you jive with, even if the flagship instance has moderation you don’t like. This is explicitly planned for, in fact–Lemmy has features surrounding convenient NSFW flags on content at the same time that porn is totally banned on the flagship instance (this one). That’s because it’s meant for people to host their own instances where they can moderate how they like. Tradcath Lemmy? Sure! No-English-allowed Lemmy? Si quieres, sí se puede.
I think the important point to stress about how federated software works is that you can always host your own, or find an instance hosted by someone whose views you jive with, even if the flagship instance has moderation you don’t like. This is explicitly planned for, in fact–Lemmy has features surrounding convenient NSFW flags on content at the same time that porn is totally banned on the flagship instance (this one). That’s because it’s meant for people to host their own instances where they can moderate how they like. Tradcath Lemmy? Sure! No-English-allowed Lemmy? Si quieres, sí se puede.