This is fascinating. Personally I’ve actually struggled with enforcing boundaries, but those that are my own rather than those of others. I similarly was often pressured by parents and was even disallowed from having boundaries at all, but that was only one-sided, so I got used to respecting others’ boundaries and ignoring my own.
I’ve communicated this to my roommate, and he’s gotten better at making sure that he’s not crossing my boundaries (or boundaries I want to have but suck at enforcing lol) just by asking multiple times if it’s okay to keep going with something (especially with talking to me while I’m doing something else), and at the end saying “you can say no”. I’ve found that incredibly helpful and validating, and perhaps if you do the same, it could have a similar effect.
Fair warning, lemmy.ml does do a fair bit of censorship as they don’t want to harbor unsavory content.
I’m not a fan of bad content but I’d rather confront it or block it myself than have it hidden from me, which is why I’m on narwhal.city instead of lemmy.ml. wolfballs.com doesn’t censor much either but their userbase is prety alt-right and boring (little more than but right-wing boomer memes, and some antivaxx links)
It’s very hard. Typically it’s because I’m understimulated, or I’m struggling with indecision paralysis. I can only combat the former, with caffeine, but the latter I sadly have no idea how to conquer.
Thanks for posting this question! I rarely see questions about ADHD on the Fediverse and they’re refreshing when I find them here.
Well, a part of me wishes I was born in the 30s, as I love OTR and 50s and 60s shows and movies. But I’m black and race relations wasn’t great back then (it was getting better tho)
Another part of me wishes I was born in the 90s. My parents were super restrictive and I wish I could have been a part of the innovative tech culture as it was happening and experience everything as possible
I used to talk to Nazis a lot, back when I was on Gab, and you know, everything about Nazism that could be redeemed goes against their core beliefs.
For example, I would like it if Nazis didn’t view themselves and greater than those who have other ethnicities, and also weren’t against race-mixing. Furthermore, I wish they had less of an aversion to having international allies.
Also most Nazis are nationalist, which I’m not on board with (in large part because I am Christian, but in small part because I’m in favor of small government and nationalism and small-government thinking don’t really intersect), but at least I can understand and borderline respect to some extent.
That sort of attitude being mainstream is why Lemmy is probably the most divisive piece of Fediverse software out right now.
The blocklist only removed some slurs that were racist or nasty AF.
I literally got censored once for trying to post an article about Ted Cruz being called the b word, because it had the b word in the title.
There is more than one?
Actually not that I know of, just wolfballs.com, but I assume there are far more lemmy instances that I just forgot about
What is reactionary?
Making free-speech instances in response to the main instance
And why is it bad?
A couple reasons, firstly, it solidifies Lemmy’s reputation as a platform for leftists, and seconds, it unnecessarily divides and isolates right wing users and instances from most Lemmy users who abide by the mainstream Lemmy perspective.
When I said this:
one of the core pillars of lemmy.ml is strong moderation and censorship
I was merely referring to the fact that the lemmy.ml instance likes to censor, is run by the Lemmy devs AFAIK, and furthermore from the beginning it included a hardcoded word blacklist (not sure if it still has that feature)
This looks like something for @WatchTheInternetDie@narwhal.city lol
But it’s not too surprising since one of the core pillars of lemmy.ml is strong moderation and censorship lol
It’s my main reason for not using Lemmy and opting for Lotide instead
Just read it