• Seanchaí (she/her)@lemmygrad.ml
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    Just a question: does this mean you believe that queer identities need to be taught? That people are socialized into queerness and that it isn’t something inherent to their selves?

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      I have no opinion on this, it’s just that in traditional or conservative societies most people may not know about these matters especially if they’re taboo

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        In countries where being gay is literally a death sentence, people are still gay. But in a country where there are literally no laws about queerness, it’s believable that no one is gay?

        It seems like this belief can only be reconciled through an assertion that queer is taught/socialized. In other words, in order to believe that an entire society would just live their lives as straight because they don’t “know about these matters” you have to believe, on some level, that being gay is a choice and that this society is absent that choice.

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          This has nothing to do with whether or not gay people exist, but how society views or deals with these topics. The total absence of any law shouldn’t be taken to mean societal approval. If it’s so taboo that they won’t even talk about it, there won’t be any mention of it publicly or at home, so no laws, and some people will grow up not knowing what it is.

          You seem not to be very well aware of how this works. Part of the marginalization of sexual minorities does involve pretending they don’t exist, and you may also have heard of this place called the closet but if you don’t know what that is you can ask someone else.

          If you think all gay people are open and out in the DPRK and they get treated well by society, I would be a bit skeptical.

          Like I mentioned elsewhere, communism in North Korea isn’t California communism…

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            Thank you for explaining to me, a trans lesbian, what the closet is. I very much appreciate it, I never knew.

            What I am saying is that it doesn’t matter how much people talk about it, or don’t talk about it, or threaten people who talk about it: being gay is an inherent part of nature. It happens regardless of socialization. It happens regardless of culture. Whether the DPRK approves of queerness or not was not the discussion. The discussion is believing that no one knows what gay is there to the extent that gay people do not exist because they do not know they are gay. It’s wild to actually believe. Truly wild.

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              Well you are and have been for a while misrepresenting this discussion, so if you are really as knowledgeable as you claim then we can leave it here.

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                Misrepresenting the discussion? You said “this is probably true” about a person saying they don’t even know what gay is in the DPRK. So uh…that was exactly what I was discussing. The wildly unbelievable character of such a statement, as if there was ever a society where gay people didn’t exist.

                It’s also pretty silly for you to say it’s likely true that they don’t know what gay is, but then follow it with a comment that gay people are poorly treated. How can they treat them poorly if they don’t know what it even is?

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                  Yes and it’s likely true that this person did not know. Your assertion that this means gay people don’t exist is bereft of logic. I already explained this in a previous response, and I’m sorry if you don’t understand.

                  One thing you’re doing wrong is making absolute assumptions about everyone in society being identical. Not all individuals in a society have the same experience, which I’m sure you know.

                  Just to give you a case in point, my grandmother who grew up in the USA, said she didn’t know what sex was until she was an adult, and she was quite elderly when she found out about anal sex. By your logic, this would mean, that if my grandmother was telling the truth, that sex did not exist in the USA and nobody knew what it was. This is false reasoning.

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                    But she wasn’t talking about herself, in the post ‘they’ is referring to DPRK society. In your grandma example it will be the equivalent of your grandma saying nobody in USA knew what sex is. remember yenomi left DPRK when she was 14