I would have liked to, but my husband was a hard no. We’re gay and the risks and difficulty involved with adoption are pretty high. He just didn’t feel like either of us were up for that, and honestly it may be true. If he’s a no and I’m a soft yes, the default goes to no. It looks like my brother is headed the same direction.

Still, I always will feel a little sad that I won’t be able to raise a kid or two. In terms of a stable marriage with decent income, we could offer that. I think I could be a decent parent, so it makes me a little sad that I will have little legacy to pass down to the next generation.