Boyfriend of 2 years (best friend of 6) just told me he’s started seeing someone else. No discussion. Just ghosted me for a week and hit me with this news. Thought he was my soulmate, lmao. I feel like someone just ripped out my insides. Just turned 31 this year, this shit is not any easier than when I was a teenager.

How did you make it through that first night? The second? The third? Is it really just time? I feel like my body is too old to survive another heartbreak.

  • Pulptastic@midwest.socialEnglish
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    8 months ago

    Soulmate is a fabrication. You find someone you like that likes you. You can tolerate their downsides and they can tolerate yours. GGG in the sack. Willing to work things out. There is no such thing as the perfect match but there are lots of people out there that will sit pretty high on your list. When you find one of them give it a go, hope it will work out, but it won’t always go the way you want. Eventually it will stick or it won’t, either way you’ve had a good time of it and start the next part of your adventure.

    • sunbeam60@lemmy.one
      4·
      8 months ago

      Da real MVP, right here.

      I’ve been with my wife going on 20 years. She drives me insane at times and I her. I’m willing to look through her annoyances because she looks through mine. Before I met my wife I had one relationship I was 100% was THE ONE™️. She wasn’t. Neither will OP’s be. Break ups are hard, and they’re hard not to take personally, but they are just another person’s opinion.

      The next one will come, most likely when you least expect it and have resigned yourself to “it won’t happen”.

    • CylustheVirus@beehaw.orgEnglish
      2·
      8 months ago

      Yes! Compatibility is a spectrum. GGG is so important. Dan Savage has some good advice on that topic.