Idk why I always wake up with either my sides or neck or smth hurting when I wake up but that didn’t happen while I stayed at a hotel. It’s not like I’m an old broken man who should be waking up expecting this.
Be very careful. An expensive mattress, if you care for it, can last a long time and will definitely help with your pains. But just because it is expensive does not mean it is actually good, let alone good for you specifically. There are many types of different mattresses and you should take some time to find one for you.
TLDR: lie down on it before buying.
I did it once and they kicked me out of the store. They didn’t even let me put my pants back on
That’s nothing. Let me tell you about the time I looked for a new toilet…
LMFAO this got to me by suprize
Take my upvote good sir!
Check out Sleep like the dead
It helped me get the most value for my money and I solved my back pain issues. Also, I simply couldn’t be happier with my sleep these days.
This is the way. Used this website to help choose my last 2 mattresses and it was pretty spot on. I also recommend this site to anyone I talk to who are looking for a good comparison on mattresses prior to purchasing.
Woo that’s a nice link! Thank you!
Thanks for the link!
I was using the mattress selector and tbh I just put “no preference” to almost all things cause i have no idea what im looking for
I put that I don’t want much heat retention, want firm, and I like a little bounce (for sex), and it basically told me to get a regular innerspring mattress. So a medium priced sealy or whatever at Costco. Which is what I got last time, and I was happy before so.
As a fellow side sleeper who just bought a Purple mattress, just remember to buy a plush/soft mattress. The reason you are hurting is because you are sleeping on your side on a, probably, cheap and firm mattress.
Firm mattresses are for back sleepers. Soft mattresses are for side gang, like us.
I will say Purple is just incredible if you can afford it but try it at a store first before committing. The important thing, though, is to get a soft, well-made mattress.
Dude, I just realized, is your name a play on Søren Kierkegaard?
Yep, it was supposed to be snoren, but I mistyped it.
That’s so funny. I love Kierkegaard, you have an awesome name!
Hope you can find a better mattress to improve your sleep.
Haha thanks. Would guessing ikiru being the kurosawa film be too obvious?
It is obvious, but that’s exactly where I got it from. Haha
I love the film and it made me learn and appreciate the word, but I also love the word used in this way as a kind of homage to living, or existence itself, and a nod to existentialism and phenomenology.
Thats cool! I love Ikiru too, the first half especially.
Have you by any chance read The death if Ivan Ilyich by Tolstoy?
The first half?! I should probably rewatch it in case I’m forgetting something but I think I love life-affirmation of the second half. Not trying to judge but the first half is so depressing. Haha What do you love about it?
But, no, I haven’t read it, unfortunately. I know Ikiru is based off it though, right? I still see Ikiru as a kind of Christ story.
I sleep on my side. I love firm futons. Soft mattresses make me very sore and cause me to have poor sleep. Just because you sleep on your side doesn’t mean you have to have a soft mattress.
There’s always an exception to the rule.
I’ve also had a great night’s sleep on my side using firm futons or even the floor, doesn’t mean that it isn’t better for side sleepers to use softer mattresses.
Now that I didnt know, thanks!
For a side sleeper I recommend going to a mattress store with a friend and your pillow. You lay down on the mattress and your friend checks if your back is straight, it’s easily visible:
So what about those of us who sleep on the side some of the night and back the rest of the time. Sometimes I like to sleep on my stomach.
The compromise: medium mattresses.
I’m the same and I prefer a firm mattress with a soft topper.
There is an old proverb I heard once. “Don’t cheap out on things that separate you from the ground”
When it comes to things like mattresses, shoes, and chairs do your research and buy the best option you can. It will save you a lot of pain later in life
Or at least use GFCI
GFCI?
It’s an electricity joke (“separates you from the ground”).
Applies to tires also, and for the same reason.
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Never skimp on anything between you and the ground
Meh I don’t think major mattress companies really justify they wildly inflated prices. This might have gotten better over the last few years, but you used to have to pay $2000 for something you could get shipped in a box from Amazon at $200 for similar quality.
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https://www.bett1.de/anti-kartell
There is a cartell in the matress market. Dont buy pricy ones. Watch the documentation on the youtube link. Its made by public tv from germany.
The link is the store of the dude that stood up and fought against the cartell. And he survived. The united-cartell-angency (bundeskartellamt) found out about the cartell throught this dude and fined the cartels pretty hard. It is still not destroyed sadly and the prices of over 500 bucks for a fucking mattress are everywhere even though it might be a absolute dogshit mattress.
Someone better make a movie bout this guy
over the last 15 years or so I would have spent $10k on mattresses of all types… inner spring, micro spring, full latex, a mix of above… all end up with body indentations that cause back pain. In the end I bought a cheap mattress in a box (Koala Brand) that is hard as a brick and a latex topper, it has been wonderful
This is the correct answer.
A good mattress is definitely worth the money. They aren’t cheap, I would expect to pay $1,000 for a queen size. Ten years ago we bought one from a department store during a sale, saved $ by buying a display model and saved another 10% by signing up for the store’s credit card. It came to $1,000 delivered. How well you sleep affects your quality of life. Ideally you’ll spend a third of your life on it.
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Good to see another futon lover!
Probably just a brand issue, but every futon I’ve ever been on, which has unfortunately been a lot of them, has been incredibly uncomfortable and you can feel every bar as if there wasn’t even cushioning.
The thin futons are like that, I tested several in the store before I chose. The one I have is thick enough to not feel the bars. There is one thicker (it has more wool) that I would probably choose next time because the wool does compress over time. I don’t really see the point of the thin ones, they were definitely uncomfortable.
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I slept on a futon at my grandparent’s place and really enjoyed the comfort. It’s also nice to be lower to the ground for some reason, and in general I love the Japanese aesthetic.
The base I bought can convert to a couch or into a sitting upright position which is nice for watching movies or reading. I unfortunately miss out on regaining floor space though.
My wife is on an Aireloom. She asked for the hardest mattress in the store (probably 100 models) and the sales guy really tried to talk her out of it because it’s THAT hard. She could sleep on bare concrete and that mattress has been a godsend to her.
You guys sleep in separate beds?
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I have so many reasons to sleep in another bed, but I really love them cuddles.
Can confirm… sleeping on the floor does wonders to aches and pains.
Before commiting to buying a $1000+ mattress, try getting yourself a foam mattress topper. A good one is only like $100. My wife and I sleep on a old generic mattress with one of these and literally sleep like angels. Every time I come home from a vacation it feels like sleeping on a cloud, compared to a hotel mattress.
I know other people will die on a hill trying to convince themselves that their $5k mattress was worth it. But in my opinion, a $100-200 memory foam topper can make a world of difference.
$6,000 Purple Deluxe 4 here - is it nice? yes! is it worth $6,000? Absolutely fucking not.
General consensus seems to be that Purple is overpriced compared to their competition, and by a lot. Comparable mattresses from other brands are probably $2k-$3k.
Having used one of the nicer Purples, I fully agree with your statement. Certainly not worth the sticker price.
I recommend checking out https://www.sleeplikethedead.com/ to help choose a mattress. It’s independent and free of advertisements.
Doing some top quality research here:
Mattress Types and Sex Suitability
Definitely. Although some are expensive for no reason so it’s important that you do your research and buy a mattress that is of high quality.
Exactly. A very good mattress which is good specifically for you is worth its weight in gold. A shitty, overpriced one…not so much.
General advice for OP: usually, for most people, the harder the better. Also that’s what she said.
I don’t know of anyone that has a foam mattress that has liked it long term. We have mattress factory here in town, and there you can buy mattresses that are better than the stuff you buy in furniture stores for twice the price. Best bed I have owned. My king size was cheaper than the queen I bought at Macy’s furniture previously, which was a top of the line there.
I don’t know your age, health, etc, but there are lots of reasons we hurt other than age. Ergonomics, repetitive stress injuries, regular old injuries. It doesn’t take much to compound these issues into something that interferes with your life.
I spent the last twenty years sleeping on a mattress that wasn’t right for my sleep style. It didn’t feel great sleeping on my side and it has a slight divot. I didn’t wake up in pain, but it definitely impacted the quality of my sleep.
I recently moved and bought a new tempurpedic. I went in, went through a calibration test of sorts and tried the top recommended matches. Ended up buying the top match, which was way expensive, but I now consistently get the quality of sleep I used to get at best once a week.
Two things: the mattress was $3k, and I still have chronic shoulder pain I manage with home physical therapy.
I guess my point is, the best mattress won’t fix a problem not caused by a bad mattress. You might need PT, stretching, or some other physical routine to help manage your particular pain, just like I have special exercises for my shoulder that if I stop, it will start hurting again and prevent me from sleeping on my side, no matter the mattress.
So before you throw down money on a mattress, make sure you rule other reasonable things out, and make sure you understand the return policy. E.g., of you remove the tags you can’t return, of there is any discoloration, no return, etc. Just make sure you have the details down pat.
Mattress: something firm like a tatami mat with a thin futon on top. Your lower back and hips will be happy.
Pillow: buckwheat husk filled with a dust cover. Your neck, shoulders, and sinuses will be happy.
Ymmv.
All my back pains went away once I bought a high end matress that was soft as a cloud.
Anytime I sleep on a futon, I sleep like shit and wake up with pain everywhere.
OMG, futons should be classified as a torture device.
