To be clear, im queer and im in a relationship with a gay cis man.

Some days ago we were watching a sketch on YouTube about the gay best friend stereotype, where the joke was basically “I can be misogynistic and can walk into female dressing rooms because im gay”. I was trying to gather my thoughts to write a piece about it, personally I have no problem being the “gay friend” to my female friends, but there are a lot of stupid and harmful misconceptions about it. I would like to hear some of your opinions about it.

  • king_dead@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    Sounds more like they’re spouting old gay predator stereotypes from the 80s-2000s

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      1 year ago

      Yeah but in a comedic tone. The joke is like:

      • Straight guy she barely knows calls her removed. Gets slapped.
      • Gay best friend calls her removed. They laugh together.

      Anyway it 100% sucks, but I think the missing piece is that having an inside joke with someone you trust makes the situation entirely different. While the other guy is being a dick and insulting her out of the blue. So the sketch really misses the mark on that one.

      Anyway I never called any of my female friends removed. Ever. Like, why?