Does anyone else vacillate between feeling hot (attractive) and repellant?
Some days I feel like all the women around me find me desirable, and other days I feel like none of them do. I rarely feel ‘in between’.
I don’t really like feeling either extreme. For one thing, I don’t trust either feeling! Feeling unattractive is obviously a bad feeling, but feeling ultra attractive is also bad. It leads me to uncomfortable fantasies and an inability to distinguish normal interactions from flirtation.
Does anyone else feel like this?
Respectfully, that isn’t it. I’m a grown person-- mid forties, admittedly neurotic. I have a full time job in an office. I have a small group of close friends, and I’ve been married for over 20 years. I recognize that this issue I have has to do with my self-image, and that these aren’t trustworthy feelings. I’m not under socialized.