So I’ve realized that in conversations I’ll use traditional terms for men as general terms for all genders, both singularly and for groups. I always mean it well, but I’ve been thinking that it’s not as inclusive to women/trans people.

For example I would say:

“What’s up guys?” “How’s it going man?” "Good job, my dude!” etc.

Replacing these terms with person, people, etc sounds awkward. Y’all works but sounds very southern US (nowhere near where I am located) so it sounds out of place.

So what are some better options?

Edit: thanks for all the answers peoples, I appreciate the honest ones and some of the funny ones.

The simplest approach is to just drop the usage of guys, man, etc. Folks for groups and mate for singular appeal to me when I do want to add one in between friends.

  • Regnissik
    301·
    10 months ago

    I mean buddy is already gender neutral.

    • Alice@beehaw.org
      2·
      10 months ago

      Once a trans woman told me that “buddy” is gendered, but I didn’t— still don’t— understand that. But recently a customer called me buddy, then when he heard my voice he apologized and called me ma’am. So I don’t know anymore.

      • Chuymatt@beehaw.org
        1·
        10 months ago

        Yah, I don’t get that. Buddy is quite clearly friendly and non-romantic. Some people feel it is gendered, and probably why you have kids named Buddy. Oh well.