OK so That Vegan Teacher shouldn’t really factor into the question because nothing she says is related to reality

Oh shit, I didn’t even think about that. What the hell.

Yeah, that’s something I’ve been thinking about myself. I think I have trouble holding it in because I really strongly believe in emotionally supporting the people I care about, but I get resentful if I keep letting people lean on me while feeling like I couldn’t ask for the same thing.

I’m trying to make more casual friendships to remove that inequality. People I can just hang out with, but without that emotional expectation that always seems to fall on one person.

Thank you, this is really kind. Logically, I know it’s true that demeaning and comparing other people’s experiences is wrong, but I encounter it so much it’s hard to really believe it.

I think ranking the impact people have had in my life is probably a good idea, but it’d take me some time to figure out how to quantify that.

I like hiking! I personally stick to easy/intermediate trails because I’m just there to enjoy the foliage and the animals, but it’s a nice use of extra time and energy.

Been trying to find a group to explore some of the riskier trails with because I know I’m missing some beautiful views, but yknow… scheduling

Tbh it’s mainly one friend, it just took me way too long to realize that it wasn’t normal to be talked to that way because everyone else treats it as normal. They used to swoop in to comfort him before I talked to them about it.

It’s just hard to pull back because we’ve been so enmeshed for almost a decade now 🙁

Wrestling, I’m not sure about, but a lot of people platonically snuggle. A lot of it is cultural and also down to your upbringing, but not everyone sees physical affection as something you can only get out of romantic relationships.

Isn’t that true for all kinds of jobs, not just sex work?

This sucks for so many. People use timestamps for content warnings or to help viewers avoid spoilers. Commenters use timestamps when talking about the content of the video. It’s insane to change this once it’s so ingrained in how people use the website.

My niece is starting to get old enough that, even if I leave a note asking them to tell her I was in an accident, I think she’d catch on. We’re not super close but I’m not sure what it does to a kid’s psych to learn people in their family can do that. I have VERY strong feelings about people who refuse to protect children, so unfortunately I’m here for a while.

Yeah. I come from a family of hoarders, and I’m a little cluttery myself. I always worry that I’ll die unexpectedly and they’ll be unable to part with god knows what random shit they find in my apartment. If I knew when I was gonna die, I’d schedule someone to come help me trash my belongings the day before. I’d set aside the actually nice stuff for them, but no one needs to convince themselves that a broken USB drive I used to keep porn on or a torn up canvas is super sentimental and they need to hold onto it forever.

Miserable. I’m moving but I can’t get off the hook for my last two rent payments. Combined with rent at my new place, they’re going to destroy my savings account. Plus I owe $900 for a urine test. Also I accidentally left my adderall in the car for several 90°F days and I swear I cooked it, it’s not working. So I have to pay for that, too.

I’ve technically had good times! I’ve been more social than usual, invited coworkers out and I guess had fun? But all I can ever think about is money and moving.

ETA also honestly the way my family and friends talk about me is getting to me. I try not to make it my whole deal but I do have some psychological issues. Mostly some trauma-related disorders but also a couple minor learning disabilities. My psych thinks I’m autistic but I didn’t want to pursue a diagnosis since there aren’t any reasonable sensory accommodations for my job.

But my family has flat-out told me that I can’t have any of those things, I’m “the good one”. They self dx with all those things to explain why they can’t keep jobs or be independent. I have a job and am independent and it hurts their egos, so they tell me I don’t have the things I’ve been in treatment for for years.

My friends do a weird thing where they try to self deprecate but dismiss my problems in the process. I attempted to open up about some heavy stuff once (I thought it was appropriate given the tone of the conversation), and my friend immediately started saying how much worse a person he is and how I must hate him because I’m dealing with my suicidal feelings so much better.

He also tried to self deprecate by saying that it’s not fair that his mental illness makes him a bad person, but mine makes me a good person??

I feel so guilty because I’m honestly spiraling but everyone keeps telling me I’m not. I can’t, because it makes them look worse.

I’m so sorry. Let go for good work. What a rotten, unfair situation.

That sounds like a real problem to me. I’m sorry for your loss 💔

I have a love/hate relationship with summer. Climate change has made it so I don’t even want to go outside… but they schedule all the fun things in the summer! Local concerts! Farmers market! Outdoor movies! Craft festivals! Carnivals! I love all those things, I just hate sweating!

So summer is probably my least favorite, but also my favorite.

If you’re REALLY sure that ignoring the day would open the floodgates for retaliation, I’d text him or give a generic card. If he’s just gonna be angry and removed at you, let him be angry and block his number.

If you’re currently in an abusive situation and possibly in harms way I think this might be beyond Lemmy’s paygrade, since we don’t know what sets him off. But it’s OK to play nice for the short term if it keeps you safe long enough to escape.

For now

The several years I pictured myself as Sonic the Hedgehog…

What a cutie! 😍 I’ve never gotten close enough to a toad to hold it before, that’s cool!

That’s so sweet!