• intensely_human@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    I can only speak for myself, but one of my problems is that since a kid I’ve been going along with people to avoid conflict.

    What this means is that when someone else views me as dangerous or untrustworthy, I automatically play along and treat myself as dangerous.

    It’s only been in the past few months that I’ve become aware of this and started shutting it down. I’m in my 42nd year right now.

    It feels so much better to treat myself as the person I know myself to be. But these masks we put on in early childhood are easy to mistake for our own faces.