• 𝑔𝑎𝑙𝑎𝑥𝑖@lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      The number one thing I’ve heard from avoidant people is that perfectly human emotions, albeit perhaps unfitting for the situation, are “clingy” or “too much.” They don’t know how to ask for things like space and own their own needs. It’s much easier to instead blame their inner turmoil and resistance on the relationship by singling out that one thing they think is wrong with it. That way they don’t have to be vulnerable and admit they’re imperfect too. I’m sure you might know all of this anyway, but just a reminder that it’s okay and healthy to be a lil clingy and worried. Not your fault.

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      1 year ago

      Just curious, do you think your attachment anxiety was the result of how a prior relationship(s) ended? Because I suffer from it a bit now and I’m pretty sure that is a fairly big reason.

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          1 year ago

          Well, you know they say, “The minute you stop looking…”. Wish you the best of luck whether single or otherwise!