I’ve had several conversations/arguments recently with my brother making clear my system of values and my hatred for the wealthy. He is nearly diametrically opposed on all accounts and often makes light of their actions. He goes so far as to say that poor people and people in need of social services should have to figure things out for themselves. He often defends Elon Musk and champions him for being self made.
He is getting married in a foreign country soon and I have been able to put aside our differences and have been planning on going
…up until yesterday that is. I asked him of his thoughts on Musk’s seig heil maneuver and he sent a right wing meme of democratic leaders caught mid wave, saying that “they did it first”. He continued to be avoidant and didn’t respond to me calling it a strawman.
In this moment it feels necessary to cancel my plans to send a message that this is not ok. Am I the (or an) asshole for not going to his wedding because of this?
I think that does change things.
I was previously inclined towards something like, “He’s your brother, and I would try and say to him that while you disagree with him as fully as it’s possible to, you will still be there because he’s your brother, and that still means something to you” or similar. Something that might get him to understand that this isn’t easy for you.
However, if you were already at his actual wedding, and this is just a party in another country, nah - tbh, I think it’d be fair to give it a miss even if he wasn’t being a Nazi apologist.