I just got ghosted by the girl I was talking to, I want to find another girl to talk to. This girl and I met at the gym, but I don’t want to be the guy that goes to the gym just to meet girls. I mean sure there’s the bar and Tinder, but I want a real relationship. I mean, I guess it’ll come to me.

  • Lemmy@lemm.eeOP
    12·
    6 months ago

    Speaking of Linux, where can I find a woman who’s into that? Defcon?

    • Match!!@pawb.socialEnglish
      13·
      6 months ago

      You might consider going to conventions, meetups, or other hobby events (including for other interests you might have)

    • Gbagginsthe3rd@aussie.zone
      3·
      6 months ago

      Bro, go to as many concerts and gigs as you can. Take a single mate, its crazy watching how many random interactions take place.

      Dont be scared to move around and chat to people. No one cares if you are trying to find a new viewing spot and its a great convo starter. I wish I went to more when I was younger.

      But number 1 rule, earplugs

      • Cataphract
        1·
        6 months ago

        … So you’re at a concert, wandering around the crowd (with earplugs) just conspicuously sliding up to different spots and striking up conversations with attractive people while they’re enjoying the performance? I would emphasize you want something more like a festival where there are multiple events and people have down time in-between to socialize. A normal concert would be like wearing sunglasses to a theater and moving around to get “the best viewing spot” while talking to everyone which is creepy as hell and not a good setting to strike up an actual conversation.

        • Gbagginsthe3rd@aussie.zone
          2·
          6 months ago

          Nah, I didnt explain myself well. You arent going just to chat to attractive people. I just see plenty of organic interactions whenever I go to a concert. You def have to enjoy the music and have a good time. Any social situation can be creepy or non creepy, the individual needs social awareness to understand the difference. I dont talk to people while the music is playing but inbetween songs or sets you can simply comment that was awesome. I agree with you about festivals, downtime is good to chat and chill

          • Cataphract
            2·
            6 months ago

            I was just worried someone might take it to heart without realizing the nuance lol. You or I may do well, but someone asking such a broad question like finding a partner probably doesn’t have that much social awareness (it’s been answered so many times and really all boils down to the individuals or specific situations like the scenarios we presented). I was just imagining a guy walking around in cargo shorts with socks and sandals awkwardly screaming “hi” at everyone with a pair of orange earplugs sticking out.