I am hoping to move ASAP and have no idea what I’m doing.

Does anyone have any guidance? I’ve never made much money in my life so I’m nervous about that.

I want to move to the West Coast and know it’s more expensive there. I want to be somewhere LGBT friendly. I like nature and paddle boarding too… So it would be cool to still be able to do that.

I don’t know where to start. When I look for apartments it’s always about …1 or 2 apartments in my price range in an area of hundred of thousands of people.

I’m kind of unsure about looking for a job. I typically suck at interviews and have been the type to prove myself via hard work vs selling myself to an employer. I’m a pretty quiet person and it takes a lot for me to warm up to people and I find this to be a bad trait for employment. Ime it seems social people get picked first regardless of work ethic.

Idk any advice would be great. Like steps to be broken down so I’m not overwhelmed.

I want to avoid areas of crime, and prejudice. I also enjoy people that are down to earth more than what I consider wealth, trend and privilege.

I make about $14.50 right now… lol-fml.

I wish dorm style living was a thing.

Thanks in advance for any info.

Edit: in terms of our of state… I’m thinking Vancouver CA or Toronto. West Coast would probably be Cali, OR or wa.

I’m somewhat open to East Coast south of Maryland.

Also, I’m in my 30s.

  • stewie3128
    191·
    11 months ago

    SoCal resident here. Cost of living is much, much higher than many less-desirable places, so as others have said, it’s absolutely necessary to have a job to move to before moving here.

    Also, the WC states are not homogenous. “Red state California/Oregon/Washington” are as red as Tennessee. There’s a big chunk of extreme northern CA that wants to secede. Same with eastern WA/OR.

    Coastal communities are, on the whole, not occupied by narrow-minded DeSantis fans, but that’s not an absolute. The more rural a place, the redder it is.

    Sites like Coos Bay are fairly cheap by coastal standards, but there aren’t really any jobs around there, and it isn’t exactly West Hollywood for community life and things to do.

    • Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.techEnglish
      4·
      11 months ago

      My God yeah. It’s not like what fox news says. Really you have the city which leans liberal but is pretty moderate. The rest of the state is just as rural and red as Oklahoma.

      • figjam@midwest.socialEnglish
        2·
        11 months ago

        The reverse is also true. Larger cities in red states can be very liberal. Nashville, Columbus, Atlanta.