I’ll go first: “You have to have children when you’re young,” told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to “How do I deal with this problem?” questions with “Oh, don’t worry about it, it’s enough that you’re even thinking about it!”

      • TheHalc@sopuli.xyzEnglish
        3·
        1 year ago

        “Being yourself” can be somewhat complex, though.

        Our concept of self is more fluid than most people realise, and we will often be very different in different social groups. We might not even notice this until those social groups collide. Each version of yourself is no more or less “you” than any other.

        • donslaught@lemmy.fmhy.mlEnglish
          7·
          1 year ago

          Is it not? If a relationship forms out of you not being yourself then that’s not healthy. Although you would have to be not-yourself constantly and at that point doesn’t that not-yourself become yourself?

          Is this a “be the change you want to see in the world” kinda thing?