Hey Folks!

I’ve been living abroad for over half my life in a country where tipping is not the norm. At most you would round up. 19€ bill? Here’s a 20, keep this change.

Going to the US soon to visit family and the whole idea of tipping makes me nervous. It seems there’s a lot of discussion about getting rid of tipping, but I don’t know how much has changed in this regard.

The system seems ridiculously unfair, and that extra expense in a country where everything is already so expensive really makes a difference.

So will AITA if I don’t tip? Is it really my personal responsibility to make sure my server is paid enough?

  • vitriolix
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    1 year ago

    Definitely tip. If you think the whole system sucks that’s fine, but don’t take out that frustration on the likely vastly underpaid employees

    • The Quuuuuill@slrpnk.net
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      1 year ago

      You enter a social compact when you enter an establishment that does tipping. When you don’t tip, you’re not making it better, your making sure someone goes hungry

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        1 year ago

        if:
        a. a person “has” to rely on other people to tip them
        b. said person goes “hungry” if a single person/table doesn’t tip them

        you… uh… have other issues to think about

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          1 year ago

          Like that our entire economic system is broken in such a way that this is a thing that happens? Yes. At the restaurant is not the time to get on your soapbox, and the exploited service provider you’re refusing the tip is not the person to be taking it out on

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            1 year ago

            and are these exploited people doing anything to change this? the consumer is the last between the three (employer, worker, consumer) that should have anger directed towards them

            as it’s their issue its their soapbox not mine, this annoying custom made it to country where they are paid enough as well

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          1 year ago

          Have you worked in the industry? This happens!