So here you are ... what next?

I’ve got very little lemmy experience in general, so this is a bit of an experiment for me.

The experiment is about sharing parenting experiences, and discuss how to survive and enjoy parenting while getting better at it.

It’s also about managing partnerships that may have caused parenting and/or are impacted by it.

Let’s discuss our problems, solutions, and breakdowns.

Parenting has been easily the most intense relationship I’ve had. It’s enjoyable and fu**ing stressful. I wouldn’t want to miss it yet I’d love it to be easier…

Can we work towards this?

Parents of lemmy, unite!

@Openmastering
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A good idea. I’m in for sure.

@linkert
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Be careful though. I’ve seen public shaming and threats go down on public parenting forums through topics as heated as “how often do you change your kids bathtowles” and “omg how can you, a mother, put a plastic spoon into your childs mouth!?”. Some parents enjoy hunting lesser parents with knifes and wrath.

Edit: as to say, some things you simply share and discuss with your own parents or friends offline rather than sticking it on the internet where the predictors roam ;)

@jazzfes
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Yes for sure.

Definitely no shaming or threats, having kids is stressful enough. Also, where claims are made that certain things are good/bad, I’d suggest that evidence is provided, and that it is presented with an understanding that in order to stay civil, compassion trumps being right.

Let’s see…

@quiteStraightEdge
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Can I, as educator of young people, also share my thoughts here?

@jazzfes
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I think any opinion shared in an open minded, respectful way is fine. Just had my first parent / kinder teacher session and I think it’s good to share both parent and educator perspectives

@quiteStraightEdge
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We all can agree on that :) Good collaboration between teacher/educator is really important. If these two people can’t freely talk about what they think is best for the human they both got responsibility for, it probably won’t bring great results. Parent can have opinions about teacher work based on watching other educators and vice versa. Giving feedback and receiving it is o so great. Only though if other person won’t view it as personal attack.

Btw. how did it went? :)

@jazzfes
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Yeah, it’s a sensitive topic I guess, so if the other person feels attacked, I guess let’s just give that person space… maybe the feedback will be appreciated another time.

Anyway, the first parent session was pretty good. It was good to hear that some of the character he shows at home was also seen in Kindergarten. This confirmed for us that he feels comfortable there. It was also nice to see the passion the teachers in this Kindergarten have for their teaching approach and the kids in general.

Pretty happy with it all :)

@quiteStraightEdge
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I agree. Just remember it goes both ways.

That’s great to hear! I hope he will grow to be a great human :)

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