Sorry for the super sporadic posting. Still in the process of moving and everything. I am giving updates on my Mastodon and !stamets@lemmy.world if anyone is interested but there’s really no reason to be.
Hope everyone has a fantastic Friday. Live long and prosper, you glorious bastards.
Ahahaha me (Shy Girl) saving up years’ worth of confidence to overcome anxiety, but waste it ALL on someone who mentions their s/o 30 seconds into the conversation. Every. Single. Time x.X
It’s not wasted, it’s practice!
Don’t let that part of your brain that wants to inhibit you win on this one. You tried, but the dude wasn’t available, so it doesn’t even count! Now you get to try again!
every single time? This happened to me once 10 years ago and I’ve never recovered. There was just the one attempt.
Well you know, sometimes you meet people and there’s a chemistry, and you’re maybe not sure what kind it is.
Before I can advance my interest, I discover they’re off the market anyway. More friendzoning than formal rejection. Not that I mind having friends.
Rejection is a huge win.
Rejection means you tried!
Seek endorphins from the “no” (or the “I have a borlfriend”), if you can… they give you a pat on the back. Feel a little guilty when you waste opportunities, and have to wonder what if I’d asked.
Certain rejection over possible yet unknown acceptance! :)
I don’t think confidence is like an expendable juice.
The secret is to get really good at a particular thing IMO.
I went to Fire Island last year with a bunch of LGBTQ+ friends. Got hit on a ton, and they were all understanding when they realized I, sadly, did not swing that way. Even the guy who opened with “I wanna lick your asshole.”
I would buy him a drink just for the story. That is hilarious until you are 80.
What happens after 80?
That’s when the asshole licking begins
Years ago, I had the same experience as Random Guy. As a straight high schooler, I totally wasn’t expecting another guy to hit on me. It had never happened before. I was surprised to find that I was flattered. To be honest, I was kinda weirded out, too, but mostly I was flattered. He was a nice guy.
Maybe just be polite next time and give the next guy who tries the ol reach around. It’s good to have them build up confidence.
I went with some friends to a gay club to watch one perform. A guy hit on me. He was polite, endearingly awkward and asked if I had any interest in playing video games and making out. Dude was really good looking too.
For real, I was so jealous at that moment and I wanted nothing more than for dick to be my thing. Some of y’all have this shit all figured out
Sometimes just playing games and kissing boys is all the world needs
That’s no shy guy.
I was at a gay bar with some friends and the bartender bought me a shot and we did one together. It was super awkward for me. Not because being hit on by another man was awkward, but only because nobody had ever bought me a drink before and I honestly didn’t know what to do. I took the shot and happily chatted with him for a few mins before returning to my friends. I hope he doesn’t think I was rude.
Sounds like a fine reaction.
I didn’t know shy guys could talk, I thought they just made little grunts from under their white masks and red hoods
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About 5 or so years ago I was walking around the downtown area of my city with my wife on a night out. Temperature dropped lower than I had expected so we stopped into a local clothing store and I bought a light jacket real quick.
After the transaction I pulled out my pocket knife, flipped it open, and cut the tags off and shoved them in the pockets before putting the knife away.
Guy that helped me find the jacket and rung me up responded to that with, “That was hot!” Then gasped and said, “Did I just say that out loud?!” and blushed.
I looked at him and said thank you and smiled and my wife told him that it was ok. We all laughed then and we left.
Gotta love friendly stuff like this.
They weren’t wrong. That is kinda hot
Don’t be sorry, you live long and prosper you glorious Stamets !
I hopped that this was indeed the norm but i’m in no position to say if it is
It’s really simple. Just be a good human.
Better than the drunk dude that grabbed my beard at the bar. I tried to be polite, but it made me so uncomfortable.
I’m a straight man but once I was in a gay bar as the designated driver and one of the guys there expressed interest in me. It was the one time in my life that anyone ever did that, and I’m not that young. I felt validated.
r/thathappened ?
EDIT: I think 99% of feel good stories on the internet is fake . I too would love to believe they are not but sometimes you have to accept the facts even tho its dissapointing .
EDIT : I get that things like this may happen it is just online one written like this is made solely to win the poster internet points if you can’t see that you may as well believe in greentext. Also no more cheap shots i am an atheist lefty who believe in that everyone should be able live as they wish as long as it doesn’t harm anyone and i do fight for that .
Nah this is common, in the US at least. Details lending credence:
- Complimenter is a dude: gay men tend to be more forward than straight women.
- Complimenter over-apologizing: gaydar error is a simple mistake but straight men occasionally bristle, hence the backpedal.
- OP was chill: straight men who look put together enough to clock as queer don’t find it necessary to overreact IME.
I get that things like this may happen it is just online one written like this is made solely to win the poster internet points .
I hear you, like “hey guys guess what I’m attractive” type of posts
Edit: just saw your edit above. I wouldn’t interpret those downvotes as anything more than “disagree.” Your current post reads as just skeptical, not homophobic or anything.
One person insinuated it in this thread
OK I just read the adjacent threads. It appears other users were being somewhat overly aggressive and hyperbolic in their disagreement with your opinion, but it also looks like you doubled down and escalated when you didn’t have to, and ended up taking on multiple people unnecessarily.
Free advice:
- When someone comes at you, online or IRL, the winning move is usually to defuse, de-escalate, or just walk away, rather than trading blows (incendiary remarks), and barring that to use your opponent’s momentum (let them do most of the talking). This is especially true when outnumbered.
- Doing the opposite easily turns a tussle into a brawl and can feel like bullying, as you find yourself ganged up on, when in reality you inadvertently aggressed others yourself.
- There’s no reason to puff up or get defensive when someone disagrees with you, criticizes you, or even insults you. If you’re right, you don’t have to prove it to anyone, and if you’re wrong, so what? We’re all wrong sometimes. You can just say “oh I see” or “yeah good point” and be done with it.
- A single encounter means nothing. You learn what you can and move on. Usually others already have.
- Also be aware that mentioning green text puts people on edge (read: can make them prejudicial of your ideological stance) because 4chan is a notoriously toxic social sphere.
Good luck
I’m not sure what’s so hard to believe about people just being polite, but okay.
No offense but 99% of feel good stories on internet are fake . I would love to believe so too believe me but it just isn’t the case.
This opinion is fake.
No offense but 99% of feel good stories on internet are fake
Well, you very quickly have proven yourself to be talking out of your ass. What an insane statistic to try and push. There are no studies that back that up. It’s entirely based off of your feelings, intuition and opinion. Forgive me if I trust them about as far as I can throw a digital concept.
I would love to believe so too believe me but it just isn’t the case.
Again. No proof, no studies, no nothing. Just pure garbage conjecture, textbook reddit behavior (to the point of even mentioning a subreddit) and cynicism. I’ll pass, thanks. I left reddit. I don’t need to see the same nonsense here. Goodbye.
Oh you are the kind of guy to believe greentexts are real aren’t you ? Anyway idc i can believe what i want you can believe what you want. Also i am not interested in further argument with an internet rando please keep believing what you want and try not to disturb me.
with your attitude I can see why you’d think that
Oh do tell me why
The medical health quip(?) you posted above is a neat summation.
So you can see into the future now . You realky are above us mortals cause you posted a comment as a reply before i even made it ? Do you got any self respect left i feel dirty talking to you.
So don’t talk to me, what’s so hard about that?
Nothing ever happens.
Have you never had a positive interaction in your whole life? This isn’t even that far fetched of a story.
For real. I have literally had an interaction like this in my life. This isn’t that uncommon. Why that user is so insistent that everything nice is fake and nothing is real is beyond me. Just bizarre.
It’s not that its far fetched its just…the way its written. I mean I have literally been in this situation as a straight dude so yes, this happens lol.
But this post just sounds like tumblr crap.
A compliment is a compliment no matter who it comes from.
This just feels like ‘and here is the moral of the story dear reader’
Yeah it is too like baitily written
“Baitily” is now my Word of the Day.
Let’s assume it is fake. So what?
Then whats the harm in saying ‘yeah this post is fake’?
It’s needless negativity. It feels like an attempt to smother any possibility that there might be happiness elsewhere in the world. In short: it sucks keep it to yourself.
That’s what it is to you. Thats a very strange over the top reaction as well. All people are saying, at least me, can’t speak for the other guy is…while yes…things like this do happen (and have happened to me) this particular post is pretty poorly written and feels like typical tumblr reblog bait. Good things happen. That doesn’t mean we cant look at a very poorly written ‘good thing’ story and say ‘yeah that probably didn’t happen’.
It feels like an attempt to smother any possibility that there might be happiness elsewhere in the world
I’m sorry, but do you always go through life assuming the worst of people like this? This is the single most negative thing I have seen in this thread so far.
You’re right, that was over the top. It was an exaggeration as a poor attempt to make my point, and I did that because I felt you were deliberately avoiding answering my initial question. I apologize for my ineptness in making my point.
(The point was it doesn’t matter if this story is fake even if someone made it to farm internet clout.)
Exactly
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yeeeeeeeah…not helping bro lol
Wow as i said don’t ne a cheap shot like is that all you can muster with your limited intelligence ?
Yep like you said in your own words “story” because it is written like one which would get the poster the most likes
What part of the story bothers you so much?
The part were everyone clapped and the bartender was albert einstein. Don’t be a cheap shot i know what you are getting at and no i am a leftist atheist and believes everyone should have their freedom . I hope you could get the medical help you need to get rid of such a dark mind .
I wasn’t “getting” at anything, I was genuinely asking what about the story upset you so much.
Based on your answer you are upset by the story because you believe it to be fake? If I’m correct, why is that?
I hope you could get the medical help you need
Wow, the call is definitely coming from inside the house on this one.
Really am i the one who can’t take a thing without accusing people of being an homophobe ? Everyone who spents five minutes on my history can see that i am not . Now cry as all you know are the insults you memorised in high school and can’t make a solid argument.
Again with the projection. If it’s all you have then so be it.
I’m sure you don’t believe me either, but when my friend came out in his early 20s I went with him to gay bars like a half dozen times to show support. Every time I would get compliments, and it was really a pleasant exchange like this except instead of girlfriend being around I let them know I was there to help a friend feel comfortable.
Two times they bought me a drink, and I was never made to feel unwelcome since I was there to be supportive.
Plus the compliments really did make me feel good about myself.
Even my sorry ass has experienced this …sorta kinda… once, but no drinks, and only one person sort of maybe seemed to be interested … a little. Or maybe I was just imagining it…
Damn now I don’t feel so good about myself 😂
If they might have seemed interested they probably were. Assume the best!
