Sorry for the super sporadic posting. Still in the process of moving and everything. I am giving updates on my Mastodon and !stamets@lemmy.world if anyone is interested but there’s really no reason to be.

Hope everyone has a fantastic Friday. Live long and prosper, you glorious bastards.

  • Mindhunter@lemmy.today
    1229·
    4 months ago

    r/thathappened ?

    EDIT: I think 99% of feel good stories on the internet is fake . I too would love to believe they are not but sometimes you have to accept the facts even tho its dissapointing .

    EDIT : I get that things like this may happen it is just online one written like this is made solely to win the poster internet points if you can’t see that you may as well believe in greentext. Also no more cheap shots i am an atheist lefty who believe in that everyone should be able live as they wish as long as it doesn’t harm anyone and i do fight for that .

    • Septimaeus@infosec.pub
      201·
      4 months ago

      Nah this is common, in the US at least. Details lending credence:

      1. Complimenter is a dude: gay men tend to be more forward than straight women.
      2. Complimenter over-apologizing: gaydar error is a simple mistake but straight men occasionally bristle, hence the backpedal.
      3. OP was chill: straight men who look put together enough to clock as queer don’t find it necessary to overreact IME.
      • Mindhunter@lemmy.today
        55·
        4 months ago

        I get that things like this may happen it is just online one written like this is made solely to win the poster internet points .

        • Septimaeus@infosec.pub
          71·
          4 months ago

          I hear you, like “hey guys guess what I’m attractive” type of posts

          Edit: just saw your edit above. I wouldn’t interpret those downvotes as anything more than “disagree.” Your current post reads as just skeptical, not homophobic or anything.

            • Septimaeus@infosec.pub
              5·
              4 months ago

              OK I just read the adjacent threads. It appears other users were being somewhat overly aggressive and hyperbolic in their disagreement with your opinion, but it also looks like you doubled down and escalated when you didn’t have to, and ended up taking on multiple people unnecessarily.

              Free advice:

              1. When someone comes at you, online or IRL, the winning move is usually to defuse, de-escalate, or just walk away, rather than trading blows (incendiary remarks), and barring that to use your opponent’s momentum (let them do most of the talking). This is especially true when outnumbered.
              2. Doing the opposite easily turns a tussle into a brawl and can feel like bullying, as you find yourself ganged up on, when in reality you inadvertently aggressed others yourself.
              3. There’s no reason to puff up or get defensive when someone disagrees with you, criticizes you, or even insults you. If you’re right, you don’t have to prove it to anyone, and if you’re wrong, so what? We’re all wrong sometimes. You can just say “oh I see” or “yeah good point” and be done with it.
              4. A single encounter means nothing. You learn what you can and move on. Usually others already have.
              5. Also be aware that mentioning green text puts people on edge (read: can make them prejudicial of your ideological stance) because 4chan is a notoriously toxic social sphere.

              Good luck

    • Stamets@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      164·
      4 months ago

      I’m not sure what’s so hard to believe about people just being polite, but okay.

      • Mindhunter@lemmy.today
        514·
        4 months ago

        No offense but 99% of feel good stories on internet are fake . I would love to believe so too believe me but it just isn’t the case.

        • Stamets@lemmy.worldOP
          173·
          4 months ago

          No offense but 99% of feel good stories on internet are fake

          Well, you very quickly have proven yourself to be talking out of your ass. What an insane statistic to try and push. There are no studies that back that up. It’s entirely based off of your feelings, intuition and opinion. Forgive me if I trust them about as far as I can throw a digital concept.

          I would love to believe so too believe me but it just isn’t the case.

          Again. No proof, no studies, no nothing. Just pure garbage conjecture, textbook reddit behavior (to the point of even mentioning a subreddit) and cynicism. I’ll pass, thanks. I left reddit. I don’t need to see the same nonsense here. Goodbye.

          • Mindhunter@lemmy.today
            419·
            4 months ago

            Oh you are the kind of guy to believe greentexts are real aren’t you ? Anyway idc i can believe what i want you can believe what you want. Also i am not interested in further argument with an internet rando please keep believing what you want and try not to disturb me.

              • Mindhunter@lemmy.today
                27·
                4 months ago

                So you can see into the future now . You realky are above us mortals cause you posted a comment as a reply before i even made it ? Do you got any self respect left i feel dirty talking to you.

    • Rampsquatch@sh.itjust.works
      123·
      4 months ago

      Have you never had a positive interaction in your whole life? This isn’t even that far fetched of a story.

      • Stamets@lemmy.worldOP
        113·
        4 months ago

        For real. I have literally had an interaction like this in my life. This isn’t that uncommon. Why that user is so insistent that everything nice is fake and nothing is real is beyond me. Just bizarre.

      • EdibleFriend@lemmy.world
        82·
        4 months ago

        It’s not that its far fetched its just…the way its written. I mean I have literally been in this situation as a straight dude so yes, this happens lol.

        But this post just sounds like tumblr crap.

        A compliment is a compliment no matter who it comes from.

        This just feels like ‘and here is the moral of the story dear reader’

            • Rampsquatch@sh.itjust.works
              64·
              4 months ago

              It’s needless negativity. It feels like an attempt to smother any possibility that there might be happiness elsewhere in the world. In short: it sucks keep it to yourself.

              • EdibleFriend@lemmy.world
                61·
                4 months ago

                That’s what it is to you. Thats a very strange over the top reaction as well. All people are saying, at least me, can’t speak for the other guy is…while yes…things like this do happen (and have happened to me) this particular post is pretty poorly written and feels like typical tumblr reblog bait. Good things happen. That doesn’t mean we cant look at a very poorly written ‘good thing’ story and say ‘yeah that probably didn’t happen’.

                It feels like an attempt to smother any possibility that there might be happiness elsewhere in the world

                I’m sorry, but do you always go through life assuming the worst of people like this? This is the single most negative thing I have seen in this thread so far.

                • Rampsquatch@sh.itjust.works
                  31·
                  4 months ago

                  You’re right, that was over the top. It was an exaggeration as a poor attempt to make my point, and I did that because I felt you were deliberately avoiding answering my initial question. I apologize for my ineptness in making my point.

                  (The point was it doesn’t matter if this story is fake even if someone made it to farm internet clout.)

                  • EdibleFriend@lemmy.world
                    24·
                    4 months ago

                    So all fake stories should just be treated as real no matter how obviously fake? But only if they are wholesome?

                    For example if I posted this would you be defending it with this much hostility? It’s very wholesome after all.

      • Mindhunter@lemmy.today
        37·
        4 months ago

        Yep like you said in your own words “story” because it is written like one which would get the poster the most likes

          • Mindhunter@lemmy.today
            37·
            4 months ago

            The part were everyone clapped and the bartender was albert einstein. Don’t be a cheap shot i know what you are getting at and no i am a leftist atheist and believes everyone should have their freedom . I hope you could get the medical help you need to get rid of such a dark mind .

            • Rampsquatch@sh.itjust.works
              3·
              4 months ago

              I wasn’t “getting” at anything, I was genuinely asking what about the story upset you so much.

              Based on your answer you are upset by the story because you believe it to be fake? If I’m correct, why is that?

            • Hominine@lemmy.worldEnglish
              31·
              4 months ago

              I hope you could get the medical help you need

              Wow, the call is definitely coming from inside the house on this one.

              • Mindhunter@lemmy.today
                27·
                4 months ago

                Really am i the one who can’t take a thing without accusing people of being an homophobe ? Everyone who spents five minutes on my history can see that i am not . Now cry as all you know are the insults you memorised in high school and can’t make a solid argument.

                  • Mindhunter@lemmy.today
                    26·
                    4 months ago

                    Talking with you is a waste of my time as you either are a troll or can’t see past your own ass

    • snooggums@midwest.socialEnglish
      7·
      4 months ago

      I’m sure you don’t believe me either, but when my friend came out in his early 20s I went with him to gay bars like a half dozen times to show support. Every time I would get compliments, and it was really a pleasant exchange like this except instead of girlfriend being around I let them know I was there to help a friend feel comfortable.

      Two times they bought me a drink, and I was never made to feel unwelcome since I was there to be supportive.

      Plus the compliments really did make me feel good about myself.

      • agent_flounder@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        4 months ago

        Even my sorry ass has experienced this …sorta kinda… once, but no drinks, and only one person sort of maybe seemed to be interested … a little. Or maybe I was just imagining it…

        Damn now I don’t feel so good about myself 😂