Sorry for the super sporadic posting. Still in the process of moving and everything. I am giving updates on my Mastodon and !stamets@lemmy.world if anyone is interested but there’s really no reason to be.

Hope everyone has a fantastic Friday. Live long and prosper, you glorious bastards.

  • Septimaeus@infosec.pub
    201·
    9 months ago

    Nah this is common, in the US at least. Details lending credence:

    1. Complimenter is a dude: gay men tend to be more forward than straight women.
    2. Complimenter over-apologizing: gaydar error is a simple mistake but straight men occasionally bristle, hence the backpedal.
    3. OP was chill: straight men who look put together enough to clock as queer don’t find it necessary to overreact IME.
    • Mindhunter@lemmy.today
      55·
      9 months ago

      I get that things like this may happen it is just online one written like this is made solely to win the poster internet points .

      • Septimaeus@infosec.pub
        71·
        9 months ago

        I hear you, like “hey guys guess what I’m attractive” type of posts

        Edit: just saw your edit above. I wouldn’t interpret those downvotes as anything more than “disagree.” Your current post reads as just skeptical, not homophobic or anything.

          • Septimaeus@infosec.pub
            5·
            9 months ago

            OK I just read the adjacent threads. It appears other users were being somewhat overly aggressive and hyperbolic in their disagreement with your opinion, but it also looks like you doubled down and escalated when you didn’t have to, and ended up taking on multiple people unnecessarily.

            Free advice:

            1. When someone comes at you, online or IRL, the winning move is usually to defuse, de-escalate, or just walk away, rather than trading blows (incendiary remarks), and barring that to use your opponent’s momentum (let them do most of the talking). This is especially true when outnumbered.
            2. Doing the opposite easily turns a tussle into a brawl and can feel like bullying, as you find yourself ganged up on, when in reality you inadvertently aggressed others yourself.
            3. There’s no reason to puff up or get defensive when someone disagrees with you, criticizes you, or even insults you. If you’re right, you don’t have to prove it to anyone, and if you’re wrong, so what? We’re all wrong sometimes. You can just say “oh I see” or “yeah good point” and be done with it.
            4. A single encounter means nothing. You learn what you can and move on. Usually others already have.
            5. Also be aware that mentioning green text puts people on edge (read: can make them prejudicial of your ideological stance) because 4chan is a notoriously toxic social sphere.

            Good luck