like i said, may have gone too hard on that. but i think the sentiment remains the same. maybe i went at it the wrong way initially because of the “boomer talk” phrase - that makes me think that OP is saying “i don’t need to hear anything that will contradict my original premise, i just need for someone to give me a number”.

i’m not trying to be rude, i’m just calling it like i see it - if you need a number of months to make yourself feel ok about making a decision, then i see it as looking for validation. we all do it - my point was that if you want to make a big decision like this, you need to feel ok with it. you don’t need someone on the internet to say “yep, looks good to me based on arbitrary criteria”.

and to reiterate what i already said, i’m just reporting the facts that i’m aware of. i’m not even saying that you shouldn’t move in with someone, just saying “you should be aware of the statistics surrounding this issue”.