• Plap plap 𓁑𓂸 @lemmyf.ukEnglish
    69·
    1 year ago

    “2 real friends”?

    I’ve been at 0 real friends for so long that even the thought of socializing with anyone stresses me out.

    • pomodoro_longbreak@sh.itjust.works
      25·
      1 year ago

      I’ve got one that I treat like gold. They’re a childhood friend that is a divorced alcoholic ex-con that went down the keto->carnivore->jordan-peterson->red-pill->gamer-gate pipeline, so not exactly a quality human. But I like to think I’m doing society a favour by keeping tabs on them.

      I wish I had a better best friend, but I’m lucky to have even this one.

      • bobs_monkey@lemm.ee
        18·
        1 year ago

        Honestly as long as your friend raises you up in life and doesn’t drag you down, that’s a good friend.

      • Simbomba@feddit.de
        1·
        1 year ago

        I think if you wait long enough he will kinda “grow out of it” if it can describe the process correctly. Just once in a while tell him about his wrong doings if he has them

        I mean that’s what friends are for right?

        • pomodoro_longbreak@sh.itjust.works
          2·
          1 year ago

          Yeah definitely. I’ve started to see that process already. Kinda reminds me of when I was a more virulent atheist and wanted to debate everyone, and just generally be a nuisance.

      • Seraph@kbin.social
        10·
        1 year ago

        “Ew no”

        Haha just kidding but making a point how most of us are our own worst enemy on this stuff. We want friends but don’t make time for them.

        • Entropywins@kbin.social
          5·
          1 year ago

          Ooof tell me about it that something I’ve done and have had done to me. I used to think friends are something you have, then a mentor explained to me that friends are an investment and we need to invest our time and emotions into them alongside that terrible thing…being vulnerable…I hate good advice

        • pomodoro_longbreak@sh.itjust.works
          5·
          1 year ago

          lol

          We want friends but don’t make time for them.

          Definitely. I have lost really solid friends over the years, because I don’t put the work in. I’m actually not that great at being a friend to others, which I’m sure isn’t super uncommon.

  • girltwink@lemmy.world
    19·
    1 year ago

    Real talk, how do you make (non-romantic) friends as an adult? I only have 3 close friends and all 3 of us are fucking 😐

    • Dudewitbow
      12·
      1 year ago

      Hobbies is usually one way to talk to people who you may become friends with often.

      • DreamButt@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        1 year ago

        Too many people don’t invest into their interests and finding like-minded individuals. There are communities for everything

    • CeruleanRuin@lemmings.worldEnglish
      7·
      1 year ago

      “Real friends” as an adult means people you see more than once a year outside of work and family, who you can name and know the name of at least one of their kids.

    • ComradeKhoumrag@infosec.pub
      2·
      1 year ago

      Be a regular at a theme night at some bars

      Maybe check out if there are any hacker spaces near you if you’re more into crafting and making things

      Get addicted to video games and party up with strangers

    • Hofmaimaier@feddit.deOP
      31·
      1 year ago

      Sounds like a fucking good time, but here is the plan: “when it comes 2 fucking, don’t fuck!”

  • _number8_@lemmy.world
    13·
    1 year ago

    spot on

    what annoys me is that ostensibly there are people out there living the fucking dream, somehow. a fRiEnD gRouP and a house and a partner and a fulfilling job and they work out at 5am every morning and feel great.

    society must divide

    • Hofmaimaier@feddit.deOP
      11·
      1 year ago

      “I see in the fight club the strongest and smartest men who’ve ever lived. I see all this potential and I see squandering. God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables, slaves with white collars, advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don’t need. We’re the middle children of the history man, no purpose or place, we have no Great war, no Great depression, our great war is a spiritual war, our great depression is our lives, we’ve been all raised by television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires and movie gods and rock stars, but we won’t and we’re slowly learning that fact. and we’re very very pissed off.” -Tylor Durden

    • SolarNialamide@lemm.ee
      1·
      1 year ago

      I truly don’t understand how people have friend groups as adults. It was a pain in the ass to get my 6 friends (two separate groups of 3) together for my birthday with a month notice. One of those friends has a big friend group from high school and now that they’re all around 25 they’re starting to find out just how little opportunity there is to get 12 people together who all live in different places now, have partners, jobs, some even kids already.

        • Hofmaimaier@feddit.deOP
          4·
          1 year ago

          Unstoppable feeling that I have to move and I feel my heart pumping, then my hands and feet can’t hold still

          • Rose Thorne(She/Her)@lemm.ee
            3·
            1 year ago

            Hey, someone else with the “Run” response! Understand exactly how you feel, though mine likes to spike out with some claustrophobia if it gets really bad.

            What I wouldn’t give to understand what the fuck is going wrong with the hardware up there, or at least to be able to afford getting help. At this point, I think I’d take being a Lith zombie over whats currently going on.