I won’t, as I said it’s what anyone wants to do im not going to judge. It’s the obsession with genes and “passing on your blood” in thr UK I find to be very sus, why define it that way?

But having grown up with abusive parents and being failed to the point of not being able to leave or escape that upbringing, when I want to adopt I want to help and support a kid in the way I never had. To show them love and support and allow them an environment to grow healthily vs what I never had.

It’s not homogenous though. Depending on when you adopt a kid will define how you address that.

I can’t imagine a kid adopted as a teen or pre teen is the same as a child adopted at a very young age.

The adopted kid in my school was adopted young enough that they didn’t know they were adopted which was a difficult time for them finding that out.

But I think adoption can be a truly special gift you can give to someone if you are willing to put the work and effort in to support them. So if someone can do that I’d encourage that personally.

I don’t disagree though, it’s not exactly the straight forward or easy choice but I find that plenty of people are put off adoption by others demonising adoptees and I’d rather step away from that in the discourse around it. Not saying you are I totally get your point but there’s an assumption that adopted kids are too difficult or damaged and that’s heartbreaking when these are kids not products. I think more needs to be done to encourage adoption with the right support and more to stop people making it out to be impossible or too hard for people to undertake.