My mom has been bugging me about this question ever since I started the process of getting on HRT. As a child there was no doubt in my mind that I wanted kids, but in the past few years I’ve been reconsidering a lot.
I finally got my hormones last week, so now the clock is ticking. I’d love other people in my situation’s thoughts on the matter.
Thanks :)
Just a heads up, trans is an adjective not a noun.
Anyway, there are a few considerations for why people would freeze and not adopt:
Firstly, adoption is mad expensive. however so is freezing and in vitro, so if you can afford the latter you could likely afford the former.
Secondly, adoption is often quite tetchy, especially in situations where it is white people basically taking children from people of colour, this is a giant problem in for instance Canada, where Indigenous parents are specifically targeted to have their children removed and placed with white families as a form of genocide, the point being to have the children raised white/assimiliated into “white culture” whatever the fuck white culture is supposed to be.
Thirdly, in most countries, trans people legally can’t adopt, and in the places where they can by law, most agencies still refuse to let them.
So for the overwhelming majority of trans people, who are constantly demonized as threats to children, the only chance you’ll ever have of having kids is to have them yourself
I meant “trans person”, just went with “trans” because it’s shorter and where I live people usually say it that way.
I’m from Argentina so adoption is free, therefore I didn’t have that in consideration. As well with your second point, there are indigenous people here who were massacred and so on, but not so systematically as it happened in the US/Canada, today a lot of of the population are “mulatos”, if you will, although there is a white majority, that would be a good consideration, honestly; although at the same time one could argue that insofar you are providing them with an understanding of their culture and heritage, and so on, and so forth, a better life, it’s a million times better that growing in an orphanage. Regarding your third point, most totally valid. Thank you for thoughts and for widening my understanding of this situation for trans people.
It’s not that you said trans instead of trans person, it was using the “a.”
It probably seems weird to say that (especially for people who aren’t first-language English, though many first-language English speakers also don’t necessarily get this concept.
I’m not remotely trying to conflate being trans with being Black or disabled, but the way we use language in that sense is the same.
It’s the difference between saying: He is Black, he is disabled, he is trans. Or even: He is a Black person, he is a disabled person, he is a trans person. Those are all correct.
Whereas these–he is a Black, he is a disabled, he is a trans–are incorrect. They use an adjective as a noun and thus negate the personhood of the subject.
I’m not trying to be critical, just offering a little explanation of the language use when discussing trans people so that your ideas aren’t misconstrued as dehumanizing or dismissive when you’re just trying to engage in a conversation of a topic that is often sensitive (especially online where comments persist outside of context and people can’t get a read on tone or how things are followed up)
Ahh, I get it know, it makes sense, sorry, as you figured it is not my native language so I’m prone to commit a mistake here and there, I will try to keep this in mind next time. Thank you!
No worries!! I always take an education-first stance; no one just knows everything and never makes mistakes, plus typos happen. <3