Mine is the grammar nazi/the person who treats (what are imo) casual online discussions like dissertations.

I know how to write and make convincing points but I’m not gonna sweat that the point I made was a bit broad or that I didn’t capitalize the right thing.

Generally speaking, if you could tell what I meant and still correct or dispute my point with me, that’s my online etiquette pet peeve.

  • KiG V2
    5•2 years ago

    Ugh same on that shit! Language is all about conveying an idea. If the idea was conveyed FOH with spelling and grammar, shit’s a little classist anyways. Like I got most of the rules on lock myself but I’m not going to lose respect for someone with poor language skills. What if they’re just uneducated? Or it’s just their style? IRL I have speaking quirks that are a combination of brain damage and just being a fucking weirdo who makes up my own words and pronunciations, so like, sue me lol. I’ve been arguing with my brother about Ukraine for a few weeks now and half of his argument involves pointing out that I’m saying “your-crane” instead of “you-crane,” like I get it I sound like a dumbass but also what about…you know…the content of my arguments lol.

    I also say “tooken” instead of “taken,” I mean some of us just talk different like who gives a hoot.

    • KiG V2
      5•2 years ago

      But anyways, MY #1 online pet peeve is just people being needlessly nasty and unwarrantedly condescending.

      I go hard out of my way to exercise patience, to meet people halfway, to make sure I don’t explain things that can leave people with their pride intact–I think dunking is good for an audience but for individuals it does no good IMO to embarass them or be cruel, and kindness is counter-culture at this point. I know I know, liberals and civility politics, but I don’t want to be polite I want to be kind. i don’t want to be fake nice and smarmy to preserve my moral superiority, I just know I personally responded best when people treated me like a human being when speaking their side. Cruelty, irreverence and dunking all have their places of course.

      And then the unwarranted condescension. Like people who can somehow be smug when they are just parroting the most shallow quips. It would be one thing if using expertise and infallible logic you tore me a new one, but people talk to me like some combination of a bratty child, a cockroach, and a heinous monster for trying to dryly recite plain facts while they merely pull one of the random 50 anti-communist talking points everybody and their grandma’s has heard a thousand times.

      Okay okay okay, so this is like, totally poetic for me but like, honestly now that I think of that my #1 #1 #1 is a “TLDR,” “I’m not reading all that. But happy for you. Or sorry that happened.” It’s incredibly lazy of a meme reply and it involves…basically admitting that you can’t read something longer than a tweet. Like I’m trying to explain something incredibly complicated in a semi-complete fashion that you will be able to understand as a normal person, manicuring my text to trim the fat and the academic/political jargon, and the best thing you can say is that I’m a windbag. Like cool dude, I know. But holy shit it makes me pissed that people can essentially stunt on me with “huh, yeah, well, I’m lazy and attention-deficient, eat shit!” Like HOW IS THIS A DISS. HOW IS THIS A DISSSSSSS. HOOWWWW

      inb4 tldr

      • KiG V2
        5•2 years ago

        YES. YES. EXACTLY. Like I’m not trying to fucking “win” some stupid shit on the internet, I am genuinely trying to change your mind respecting you as a person who I am being charitable in assuming is merely as severely misled as we all have been. As a fellow person who I think deserves to know the truth. And you’re just worried about like/dislike ratios and maintaining the illusion of being right for an audience.

        I really, really wish that admitting you were wrong or that you aren’t educated enough to talk on something confidently was easy and normal for people to do in any and all situations. I do it all the time, it doesn’t kill me.

    • @reactorFigure@lemmygrad.ml
      4•2 years ago

      I know it’s classist and yet I have to bite my tongue when I see “could of” and “eckspecially”. Raised kinda bourgie :(