If all the Lemmy instances I’ve tried out continue to be as unstable as they currently are, I doubt the average normie user will stick around. With that being said, I totally understand the outages are due to the massive influx of new users and lurkers coming in out of curiosity, Reddit addiction, or otherwise. But I believe most people either won’t care, understand, or want to deal with it, which will ultimately lead them back to browsing Reddit while thinking that Lemmy is a cobbled-together mess, which it’s not, but once they’ve got that idea in their head, it’s hard to revert. Take cheap Android phones as an example. A lot of iPhone users I used to know would always say that Androids were slow and clunky. Even though the only experience they would have had would have been when they got their first cheaply made Android, and that was that, now they’re so used to the ecosystem that they now think it’s complicated to use an Android.
With all that said, since Reddit is used as an information hub, one way we can help would be to only post information on Lemmy Kbin and other Reddit alternatives, and over time, if we keep redirecting users to them, they’ll slowly become the new default and Reddit will slowly fade out. Now, sure, there is a lot of historical data on Reddit, but new questions and answers are always being presented, so whether Lemmy Kbin or otherwise dies or becomes irreverent, it’s up to us as a community. Another thing to note is that, unlike Mastodon, Reddit, Lemmy, and Kbin are information hubs and not just a site where people post what they ate for breakfast, which I know is a huge oversimplification, but my point is that people to a certain extent need sites like Reddit, Lemmy, and Kbin and not just for the memes and stuff.
I had a neighbor that would consistently have parties that spanned till the early morning. All night long I’d be woken up by screams and hollers. But I was always told to just ignore them and not cause a commotion so I stayed silent for 2 straight years then I left the country and stayed out for about a year before returning.