Hey Comrades,

With the current state of the world and general increase in negative feelings and emotions as a result of the current state of affairs, I wanted to start a community weekly vent post.

This will be for anything you need to talk about related to your mental health that is bothering you. If you feel overwhelmed, angry, scared, depressed, anxious, anything, write what you’re feeling and why below. Let’s use this as a place to help each other get through this awful shite.

  • TeezyZeezy@lemmygrad.ml
    18·
    2 years ago

    I already made my post in the freechat community but yeah I’m struggling really bad with drug usage and severe derealization, depression, anxiety and just in and out of this weird void feeling.

    This is all happening while the world is burning and I’m getting increasingly scared because of it and also spiraling feeling like a loser because I still haven’t fucking joined an org or gotten my new job

    I don’t want to die but I don’t know how to live without being in misery

    Am I overexaggerating? I can’t even tell anymore.

    My life seems to revolve around running away from how I feel and doing anything to forget the pain I’m in

    What is there even to feel like this for i have such a privileged life compared to most I feel like I should just suck it up but at the same time I feel incapable

    Dumbass rant over

    • panic@lemmygrad.ml
      15·
      2 years ago

      You should write down what you’re feeling in a private journal and save it for the future. I’ve done it and I’m thankful to have proof of the way I was feeling back then, I need to remember the pain I forgot. It’s not like I’m the same person but it helps me have more respect for the past I have.

      But don’t go back to your notes constantly and alone.

        • panic@lemmygrad.ml
          5·
          2 years ago

          I feel a lot of compassion reading what I wrote back then. One day you’ll read ot back and understand that the “bad choices” you made at least kept you alive and that it wasn’t a fantasy you created.

    • DankZedong @lemmygrad.ml
      111·
      2 years ago

      You don’t have to suck it up. If we only can complain when no-one has it worse, then only one person in the world could even complain.

      Your problems are real. They might be easy for some, they might be even harder for others. But they are your problems regardless. It’s okay to struggle, take a step back and evaluate the situation. And it’s okay to not have a direct answer or solution to all your problems at once. It’s one step at a time, brother.

      I know it’s easier said than done, but if you can safely quit the drugs, do it. It’s not ever going to make the situation better, and I speak from experience with years of abuse.

      For your mental health problems I think it’s best to find a professional if you can. It might need a more professional approach then random online strangers. I found it easy to go see a doctor at first to see if they know people that could help. But in the US, that might be more difficult maybe.

      Getting to a point where you can be happy with yourself can be a long and difficult journey. There will be ups and downs, setbacks, progress etc. Try to keep an objective look on your journey. What made me feel bad? What made me feel good? When did I make the most progress and why was I able to do that. Maybe write all of that down, to see if you can notice patterns. That way you can see what happens, what works for you and what doesn’t.

      It’s a really useful tool to keep track of your situation.

      • TeezyZeezy@lemmygrad.ml
        10·
        2 years ago

        That makes sense. Something just rubs me the wrong way about how I put myself in this situation and now feel sorry for it. But you’re right.

        I definitely am going to try my hardest to quit them. It definitely has not improved my situation.

        That sounds like a very good idea and I appreciate the recommendation :)

      • DankZedong @lemmygrad.ml
        91·
        2 years ago

        This is called schema therapy by the way and it’s a great tool for people dealing with the things you are dealing with. Many clients I dealt with benefited from it.

  • CannotSleep420@lemmygrad.ml
    6·
    2 years ago

    I know exactly what I need to do to better my situation and I don’t do it for some reason. Normally this is the part where I’d say there’s something seriously wrong with me, but according to my therapist that kind of thinking is self defeating. Seriously, if I can start showering and brushing my teeth every day, start going on walks in the morning to ease my self back into exercise (I think I could do 3 miles every day/couple of days, hell 1 mile would be better than nothing), spend 40 minutes a week cooking vegetables to eat for dinner throughout the week, and get into a reading regimen and I know I can improve my life and also contribute more to society. Fuck, I just broke down what I could be doing to improve my life into easy actionable steps and I still just keep not doing it for some reason. I know my therapist said not to do this, but I’m gonna say it anyway: what the fuck is wrong with me?

    • panic@lemmygrad.ml
      7·
      2 years ago

      It’s taken me about a year to start doing these things frequently enough, and I still have weeks where I “regress”. I only started doing it little by little because I got so embarrassed from setting the goals in therapy and never accomplishing them.

      So I guess what’s “wrong with you” you need accountability that feels relevant to your life. Social life is supposed to help with it and a therapist might help introducing these expectations.

      If it’s useful, there are professionals who focus on providing assistance for people who need it outside of psychotherapy. Like helping you go out on a walk everyday or making sure you’re cooking to feed yourself.

  • JK1348@lemmygrad.ml
    5·
    2 years ago

    It’s my birthday and i got really really sick unfortunately. Good news it’s not COVID, i got tested but it feels like i have it, I’m worried it’s undetected. I was looking forward to this week but I’m terribly sick and all I do in my life currently is work constantly, study at college, workout, and pay bills.

    I’m exhausted, and i am hoping to get some rest. I live alone with my dog and I’m just very lonely quite honestly. I just miss being held. I try my best not to seek validation outside myself and my therapist has been trying to help me work on it but it’s very hard. I’ve been doing the same thing for 30 years, and it’s hard trying to shift my way of thinking. I sometimes feel after seeing everyone around me easily attract dates or falling in love that maybe I’m some sort of ogre. It’s hard not to feel that and I’m trying to build my self esteem better.

    I’m 9 months without a drink tomorrow though. I still enjoy weed, and psychedelics once in a blue moon. My mental health has seen a significant increase without weekend binge drinking and escaping habitually.

    I’m tired, lonely, and scared of the future.

  • Evolutionist
    1·
    1 year ago

    Hi! I am a certified individual schema therapist and can confirm that this approach can be of great help for people suffering from emotional distress. There are quite a few self help books online for anyone who’s interested. Just take a look around and give it a try.