• BountifulEggnog [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    7 days ago

    That study makes me doom so hard sometimes. Allies, but wouldn’t date a hypothetical trans person. A deal breaker for the vast majority. People see us as freaks and if they like to think of themselves as woke they’ll gender us properly. Great way to show how people actually feel about us.

    Edit: oh and to double up on it, how popular stating your disgust with trans people is. How common, and acceptable it is. Some cis people even having the gall to ask if their repulsion at the idea of dating us makes them 😱 a bad person.

    • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]@hexbear.net
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      "You wouldn’t want to date a hypothetical trans person because youre a chud

      I wouldn’t want to date a hypothetical trans person because theyre out of my league

      We are not the same"

      we-are-not-the-same

  • Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's]@hexbear.net
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    I’m glad I found my wife.

    Trying to navigate and find relationships with either group:
    -cis people who are not largely not interested/view you as a third sex
    -t4t trans people who largely sleep around with each other in a very loose manner (perhaps in part due to the former)
    just sounds alienating and exhausting.

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    ok im not trans, im ND but i relate deeply to this. i hate feeling like this, maybe i will find my people idk.

    dunno what else to say, thanks for reading my comment.

  • Awoo [she/her]@hexbear.netOP
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    I intentionally didn’t write anything when posting this because I just wanted to post without comment and see how people like it.

    It’s not a matter of appearance. It’s a matter of respect. As it turns out, being open-minded, generous, and kind to people who respect you tends to lead to good things with people who actually treat you as an equal.

    I’ve said many times people should all try to find their authentic selves and drop masks. It’s healthier, it lets you cut out the people who don’t like the authentic you and focus your attention and time on the people who do. This in turn, wastes less time, because you’re not actively swimming against a social tide you’re not thriving in.

    She tried to do that, wear a mask and swim in a circle that wasn’t authentic for her and it didn’t work out.

    I’m honestly really glad I read Sartre during my formative years. Sartre’s writing about masks and the authentic self really caused me to try and eliminate all masking and just be me. I think it’s very important to be your own self judge, not to seek qualification from others because it gets super unhealthy really quickly going down that road.

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    Eh, can’t say i’m surprised, but it’s not as if i give a shit about the cissies. I’m not ruling out that i might date a cis woman again in the future, i’m not generally opposed to the idea, but my t4t experiences have raised the bar a cis partner would have to reach so high it’s basically impossible for them to do. It could happen, but why waste my time trying to make it happen when the odds are so low and when i keep meeting trans cuties who, without any effort, give me more than anybody else ever has?

    Let’s not get me started on cis men. I can’t echo the author’s observation of getting no attention from men, but i kinda wish i could and i’m not getting deeper into that because it’s hard enough not to fedpost nowadays.

  • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]@hexbear.net
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    NEET

    this post is thus blessed by his holiness st. bhagavan shree matt “i was one of those hikikomoris for the longest time” christman (SWT)

    large-adult-son

    the first crack in the veneer for me, the thing that began the slow and gradual exposure of my real self, was learning i was unfuckable

    Brutal 1st sentence, may his holiness bless the author with fat stacks if they decide to write one of those depressing modern western i-novels