I’ve been out to my friends for years but I had fears/brainworms about presenting that way at work. As a result, I kept everyone at arms length and was generally pretty cold and closed off to everyone, which made me a shitty communist. But I finally managed to overcome that and find a new job (just some temp warehouse work) with my preferred name and presentation, which I just started today!

So I come in with a batch of new hires, ready to turn over a new leaf and start socializing, and wouldn’t you know it, there’s a guy awkwardly hovering around me! Perfect! I know awkward hovering because I’m an awkward hoverer myself, clearly, he wants to be friends but is too shy - so I introduce myself, and we get assigned to similar areas and sit together on breaks. “Making friends is so much easier as a woman!” I thought, a fool.

This guy starts simping hard. Starts asking if I have a boyfriend, takes a big interest in all my hobbies, stuff like that, but the big kicker was he’d been talking about how much he’d prefer being on a different shift so I suggested he ask someone about it but then he’s like, “But then I wouldn’t get to see you.” BRO. catgirl-disgust

Also, he’s 19, and I’m in my 30’s. Ew libertarian-alertcringe

I’m not sure if he’s aware I’m trans or not, I usually assume people can tell but idk and it’s not on some people’s radar. Not sure which is worse.

Overall, I’m still happy about being able to present the way I want at work and I’ve been unemployed for a while so I’m glad to be making money and the job’s not too hard. But as far as workplace socializing, I kinda feel like I just traded one problem for another oooaaaaaaauhhh

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    Not calling it a good thing(been in similar positions, it absolutely sucks), but if it makes you feel any better, he sounds like a kid being a kid. Probably at one of our first real jobs, it’s warehouse so probably expected a heavily male workforce, then here’s this woman, our heart skips a beat, we go stupid.

    Give him a bit of the “I’m not interested”, a couple weeks to nurse the bruise on our overinflated-by-youth ego, and he’ll probably forget he had a crush in the first place.

    Outside of that, I hope everything goes well! I know depending on where you are, warehouse can be monotonous. Find what you can to keep your sanity.

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      Yeah, that’s how I read it too. It’s new territory for me but he seems harmless. Not overly bothered by it but, you know, would like him to stop trying to hump my leg. spray-bottle