• Alex
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    7 hours ago

    Ok I fail to see how battering kids helps them develop a bond of trust with the carers.

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      6 hours ago

      That’s better. It’s still escalating language, and dishonest. But at least it’s more accurate.

      And the truth is spanking doesn’t build trust. Not on its own anyway. It’s all about the context.
      Following through on an established rule with a known consequences does actually promote trust. It works as part of a holistic approach to reward and punishment.
      Spanking generally isn’t needed with many children. But with some children, it can be a effective tool when used appropriately.

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        5 hours ago

        when used appropriately

        …and there’s the rub. Far too often it’s not used appropriately. And people’s ideas of what is appropriate is colored by whether they too were beaten as a child.

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          57 minutes ago

          Agreed. But that doesn’t effect my point, or even the study.

          Almost everything with an effective appropriate use can also be misused.