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  • Wake [she/her, they/them]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    37·
    9 months ago

    I bought an outfit for my vrchat avatar and tried it on last night. I had no idea I would spend an hour doing spins in front of a mirror and spazzing out because I was so cute. It was an incredible experience and it’s the first time I’ve ever dressed like that, virtual or irl. If I wasn’t sure before, I am now. My friend popped into my home world while I was spinning around and dancing. He said he’s never seen me smile that much (I have face tracking so it’s pretty obvious to see how I’m feeling). I should find a clip of it cause I don’t think I’ve ever looked as happy as I did. Vrchat is an incubator for eggs.

    Edit: So I’m gonna go about 4000000 miles outside of my comfort zone and post this. https://streamable.com/jt1nz3

  • Babs [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    32·
    9 months ago

    You use the local trans discord as a base for your polycule.

    I use the local trans discord to ask questions about how to use Linux.

    We are not the same.

  • Ocommie63 [she/her]@lemmygrad.ml
    32·
    9 months ago

    Hiii, I hope everyone had a great week and will have a better week than last too!!! 🥰🥰🥰🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🥰🥰🥰

    🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

  • Raebxeh@hexbear.netEnglish
    31·
    9 months ago

    Leggings, cold shoulder top, loose knit cardigan, full beard. This is my life trans-heart

  • Cromalin [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    30·
    9 months ago

    after years i have reached the point where i can’t simply pull on a tight shirt without actively working it over my boobs

  • lilypad [she/her, null/void]@hexbear.netEnglish
    28·
    9 months ago
    Been having a rough time of it lately.

    My brain doesnt work good; i cant fulfill the prerequisites for existence in this world. Im trying to find a job and housing, but it just doesnt work in my brain.

    And how can i live with other people? “Hi potential roomie, i would love to live with you! Oh and btw i might get random intense mood swings, see things once in a while and then insist we have no standing water in the house cause thats how she gets in and I dont want to experience her right now, but wait an hour and everything will be fine again. etc. etc.” like who tf wants to live with a crazy person whose only tangentially connected to reality?

    And even beyond that, my brain doesnt work right. I know I have to do things, but i cant do them. Whether fun things or not, i think about them constantly, feeling terrible im not doing them, and still dont do them. I just dont function. I have housing until the end of march, but after that im not sure what will happen. I was confident I could find somewhere to live by then, but the people in my life are saying ive already failed at it, and tbh theyre not wrong. Im just not capable. It took me 1½ months to fix my social security and drivers license. It should have taken a week, max. Idk, im just kinda done trying. I try and I fail, if i dont try i fail, all roads lead to rome.

    Anyway, idk how thats related to being trans, aside from that im trans.

    Besides all that I have some friends who are nice, they keep me sane. Gonna hopefully expand my social circle a bit this week, but might crash out at the last second cause of the aforementioned brain not working right.

    I hope everyone else is having a better time of things. Sorry for bringing everything down 😓

  • SnowySkyes [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
    28·
    9 months ago

    The exercises meant for my hips and ass are working splendidly. Reports from my wife and girlfriend apparently have me gaining a much more obvious hourglass shape and at least some semblance of an ass. I will continue these with more gusto than I have previously. If about 3 weeks will do this, then imagine what an entire year will do. I will have a proper figure damn it.

      • SnowySkyes [she/her]@hexbear.netMEnglish
        17·
        9 months ago

        I’m actually not sure what the exercises themselves are called, so I apologize beforehand if this is a little awkward.

        I use some resistance bands for this purpose. They’re fairly cheap on Amazon and work fairly well. The exercises are as follows

        1. Lay on side with band near the knees on upper leg. Upper leg at 45 degree angle with waist, lower leg at 90 degree angle with upper. I then separate my legs. I do both legs
        2. I stand up with band in same place. I then kick laterally as far as I comfortably can. I do both legs as well though I’m careful with my left one due to injuries.
        3. I then get on all fours with the band, again, in the same place. I kick outward with one leg and return it. I do both legs here
        4. In same position, I instead kick backward and straighten the leg. Both legs once more

        I do about 20 reps each leg on each exercise with the heaviest band, so that may be why the progress is so fast. I couple them with my physical therapy exercises that I have to do for surgery. I do 2 days on, 1 day off so the muscle can recover.

        Also, if anybody who knows better than I can suggest more exercises, please do. I want to have hips.

        Oh, I also am starting up a regimen with my Total Gym here soon with a ton of exercises with that. Just gotta find space to set it up again. Has a ton of leg, hips, and ass exercises that I want to take advantage of as well. My set even came with a workout routine in the box perfect for this purpose. So hopefully that does even more.

    • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
      9·
      9 months ago

      How long have you been on HRT? What’s your routine? I am also doing weightlifting for my ass and legs. It’s been like 3x a week with squats, deads, hip thrusts, leg presses then a bunch of leg machine stuff. Trying to keep it to mid-heavy weight workouts (300lbs on deads for 5x5, 450 pounds on the leg press for 3x10, 185 for squats for sets of 8, 185 for hip thrusts for 3x10) and it’s also working pretty well for me too. I’ve been going for about 2 months now but I am not getting the hourglass shape, just a fatter ass which is nice but I want hipssss

  • WannabeBear [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
    27·
    9 months ago

    Life is shockingly good right now and idk how to feel about that.

    • I’m finally on the waitlist for top surgery (downside is that it’s 1.5-2+ years before I’ll be having surgery, if I want it funded by public healthcare. Also downside is they’re suggesting that I reduce my BMI, which is just awesome with my history of dieting and disordered eating. kitty-cri-screm. I might go private, partly to avoid the waitlist (2 years is way too long), partly to possibly avoid getting annoying diet talk from my GP (the public surgeon sent her a letter asking her to reduce my weight, basically, lol)
    • I have a job lined up for after graduation, and came out to them about being trans. They were mostly supportive and cool, though a tiny bit boomer (I will probably have to educate them some, which sucks, but is also inevitable in my industry). One staff member did misgender me last time I was there, so next time I’m coming with a name tag with my manly new name (I mostly go by a shortened version which is fairly gender neutral, the full version is definitely considered a male name) and pronoun pins. Hopefully that will help. I need a beard.
    • I’m getting so close to being Out everywhere. I just need to come out to my in-laws and an aunt and uncle, so they don’t get to freak out about finding out via the grapevine or social media or something.
    • I’m dating a cis woman who is married to a trans woman and it’s SO WILD to be dating a woman in a straight way, and absolutely amazing to be dating someone who has already been “cooked” in terms of cis people being educated about trans stuff. She’s so incredible at affirming my gender. The downside is idk how to feel about discovering this straight side of myself. It’s kind of disturbing and makes me feel unsettled. Also I’m discovering new ways to trigger dysphoria, which is annoying. Like I can be with a guy and not wear a binder and if I feel his flat chest on my tits it’s kind of just neutral. But feeling someone else’s tits on my tits is like. A big reminder that I have tits, and very unpleasant. So I have to wear a binder all the time with her, which sucks because I already bind way more than you’re supposed to. But overall this new relationship is very fun and good.

    Idk why I used bullet points for such massive paragraphs. I think those are all the good trans news I’ve got going on.

  • Ocommie63 [she/her]@lemmygrad.ml
    27·
    9 months ago
    rant/dysphoria

    I hate chuds so much. In school, I have to listen to both the students and the teachers spew out the most vile garbage I have ever heard in my entire life. But whenever I try to push back against their bullshit I’m the weird one, the one that’s unhinged, every single god damn time, the students are flabbergasted and flustered whenever I even try to introduce one iota of human empathy into anything at all. The teachers are even worse, they just cut me off and try to insert their own dog shit, fascistic ideology into what I have said, trying to shame away the empathy from me. It makes bash my head into a wall. It’s so exhausting to hear everyone’s bullshit 24/7. All of this is not helped at all by all the dysphoria i have built up. My voice is disgusting, my body revolting, my legs look like gorilla legs, mu arm hair is awful, my hair is still short, looking at myself in the mirror makes me want to vomit. And i definitely don’t have anyone irl to talk to or process this shit with. I cant talk to anyone at all around me, not honestly. All this makes me feel like im dying, I wish I could cry, but I can’t, and im so sad and so tired and i know i cant do a single god damn thing about it. I don’t know how much longer I can live this way, not long.

    IDK why i decided to post this, i guess I just need to vent to some one.