I am talking to people on this dating app, hinge, and this idea has popped up several times. And while I think I get it I’m not sure exactly what they mean. Of course, everyone has their own interpretation of what they think they mean by it, but I was wondering if you all had anything you wanted to add to it.
Is it being open to being vulnerable with each other?
I found this and I thought it was pretty good actually…
I agree with you on the strict-ness. I think the availability rule #2 is too strict as well, the idea that they are all your responsibility and you should “repair” them is a bit conformist tbh. Like she seems to place an emphasis on “returning to normal” emotionally which I think is too rigid. Sometimes our emotional baggage cannot be “processed” or as you said we haven’t explored our emotions fully on our own or we are in the process of exploring them. And I can say for me as a western, cishet man that it was really helpful to have a woman friend who kind of went through it with me and teased it out of me. I wouldn’t have been able to do that on my own.
Yeah, that’s a bit weird. A person’s emotional state is obviously affected by their environment, including their partner
Of course but, well, that begets a dialectical materialist analysis of social relationships which is off limits in our individualist society.