I am talking to people on this dating app, hinge, and this idea has popped up several times. And while I think I get it I’m not sure exactly what they mean. Of course, everyone has their own interpretation of what they think they mean by it, but I was wondering if you all had anything you wanted to add to it.

Is it being open to being vulnerable with each other?

I found this and I thought it was pretty good actually…

  • ☭ 𝗚𝗿𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗘𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿 ☭
    10•2 years ago

    I mostly agree with the points in the images, although they might be a bit too strict – for example, I don’t think you need to fully understand all of your emotions to be emotionally available, as long as you’re not deliberately trying to hide them from your partner (or the relevant person, depending on context)

    although I’ve never dated anyone so I could be way off

    • SpaceCowboyOP
      9•2 years ago

      I agree with you on the strict-ness. I think the availability rule #2 is too strict as well, the idea that they are all your responsibility and you should “repair” them is a bit conformist tbh. Like she seems to place an emphasis on “returning to normal” emotionally which I think is too rigid. Sometimes our emotional baggage cannot be “processed” or as you said we haven’t explored our emotions fully on our own or we are in the process of exploring them. And I can say for me as a western, cishet man that it was really helpful to have a woman friend who kind of went through it with me and teased it out of me. I wouldn’t have been able to do that on my own.