I hope this is relevant for this community, because I don’t know where else to post this. I’m honestly scared to post it anywhere else.

I live in Eastern Europe. I’m a university student, and recently, we got an American exchange student. They’re a very outspoken liberal.

A few days ago, we took them out with a few mates out for beers (they’re under 21, so they didn’t drink, even though you can here if you’re at least 18) to break the ice and make them feel comfortable. We got talking and because I’ve never been to the US, I asked them what I thought was an innocuous question. For some context, I’ve been a communist for a very long time, and joined the communist party the day I turned 18.

I basically asked them: Why would I vote for Harris? How would that improve the situation in the US and abroad? I’m not too familiar with her, but her politics don’t seem too appealing, especially her support for Israel and her incarceration background.

That made them launch into a screaming rant about how I’m a conservative for doubting her abilities and deserve to be jailed for wanting to infringe on the rights of women. There were a few more insults targeted at me for asking that question, I didn’t really understand them. The entire time, I was not even saying anything, I was honestly too shocked to react, but they just kept screaming until they got up and stormed out in a rage after calling me a Trump supporter, misogynist, and a fascist. My mates were equally confused. We tried to figure it out, but everyone is equally stumped.

I’ve been thinking about that entire situation for a couple days, and I’m so confused about their reaction. They even refuse to speak to me now.

What have I done wrong? Can someone please explain? ☹️ I really don’t understand what happened. We have liberals here of course, but even the worst ones never behave like this.

  • PocketFishOP
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    26
    ·
    1 month ago

    Thanks for the very detailed response. It’s interesting insight.

    I don’t think I’ll speak to them again, or want to at all. They have already angered a few other people, and I think they’ll eventually get isolated because nobody will talk to them (apart maybe from the couple other American exchange students). We really did our best to make this student feel included despite their unrelated mishap (calling our school racist because we didn’t have any black people, in a country that’s 95% culturally homogenous and speaks a Slavic language).

    • l0tusc0bra@lemmygrad.ml
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      19
      ·
      1 month ago

      Yeah, it sucks but we’re not therapists or priests. We’re leftists. We can’t give them absolution for the despair they feel about the fact that their way of life is threatened, or the guilt they feel about choosing to live in denial. Which is what I honestly think they’re looking for when they do the “well what DO we do except vote?!?1” thing. I had to hit rock bottom a couple times before deciding to change the way I think and dispose of old ideology so I guess that’s what it’s going to have to take before they maybe open their minds.

      • SadArtemis🏳️‍⚧️@lemmygrad.ml
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        9
        ·
        1 month ago

        We can’t give them absolution for the despair they feel about the fact that their way of life is threatened, or the guilt they feel about choosing to live in denial

        Honestly, I don’t want them to get absolution, or to escape their guilt. Not until they finally figure it out, come to terms, and start acting like decent human beings (ie. not supporting genocide directly or indirectly, for a starter).

        Until then, I’m perfectly fine with them continuing to make an ass of themselves, or even heading in self-destructive ways before imploding or ending one way or another. Fuck them, genocidaires and their ilk get what they get.

        The rest of the world, thankfully, is not made of AmeriKKKan libs (and even of Anglo libs, those who have a shred of decency will eventually move on- those who won’t, will stay libs). And the rest of the world has moved on past their murderous ways, at least, the vast majority of humanity has, and sees them for the faux-progressive, chaunvinistic, brainwashed aberrations they are.

        They can figure out human decency, or head straight to oblivion. The metaphorical beatings (of being faced with reality and the facts they are terrible people and everyone knows it) will continue until they either die or learn their lesson. Either is perfectly fine by my books, either is an ideal outcome when we’re talking about genocidaires.

        • l0tusc0bra@lemmygrad.ml
          link
          fedilink
          English
          arrow-up
          12
          ·
          edit-2
          1 month ago

          Agreed. I just don’t have any sympathy left. Seeing the fake leftists immediately get with the program as soon as the dems shed their skin and crowned Kamala really made me realize that USAmericans like them fundamentally don’t understand or care about the nature of their empire. The most galling thing I think is the Buying Time assertion, wherein voting for the dems will give leftists the space they need to work against fascism. Just don’t ask them what that actually entails, or what they’ve been doing since 2020 and 2016 when that talking point was also deployed. Nor should you ask how that can be true when the dems have been actively quashing free speech since last October, going so far as to legally codify dissent as anti-semitic “hatred”.

          It’s extremely self-indulgent, self-aggrandizing thinking that conveniently lets them defer any serious political action until after they know they’ve gotten what they wanted.

          I’ll remind you once again that that was what these same libs said in 2020 and I think we all know that they’ve pissed away all that time buying into poli-tainment as usual instead of “preparing” as they put it. I’m going to just start asking “buying time for what?” because I genuinely have no idea what they mean.

          • SadArtemis🏳️‍⚧️@lemmygrad.ml
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            7
            ·
            1 month ago

            Couldn’t have put it better myself. If they can’t get with the program (of not backing genocide) then they can go straight to hell and I’ll be glad to see them go. Those who clown for Klanmala deserve nothing less as I see it, they aren’t friends, they aren’t comrades, hell, while they’re technically of the same species that is only a mark of shame on the rest of us.

            These scum could have a thousand, or a million years even, and it would never be enough. If they cannot demonstrate the bare minimum of human decency as to stand against the empire, the genocide, the warmongering, racism, etc. here and now they can and should die for all I care, I’m glad the rest of the world is moved past them and I’ll cheer on the destruction of the west should society at large continue to fail at that lowest possible criterion of humanity, even if I go down with it. They’re nothing more than another competing variety of fascist in the clown show of empire (where all the various fascists are accusing each other of being the “true fascists”).

            • l0tusc0bra@lemmygrad.ml
              link
              fedilink
              English
              arrow-up
              8
              ·
              1 month ago

              Yes, I’ve had to reevaluate my own models of why American “leftists” do what they do this past year and engage in some self-crit.

              Even after all this time I was still operating on the admittedly liberal logic that they just didn’t have all the facts and were propagandized and that our duty was to provide that information. I failed to understand that they’re only human and won’t turn on the ideology that’s provided them with what they materially want and need. It’s not that it’s impossible to convert them. I just think it’s likely that lib idealism eases their contradictions more effectively than ML ideology does.

              The worst part about it is that I was also roughly on their level only 2-3 years ago. I know exactly what they think. They think that there will be some magic combination of elected representatives to defeat the SCOTUS and the parliamentarian and all the other obstacles and booby traps their system throws up to protect itself.

              I guess the bottom line here is that history tells us that cooperation with libs holds very little promise of us getting what we want because they are not living in reality and as such will not behave realistically. I’m willing to be wrong if any comrade can explain why but I see no way to make them understand.

              • davel [he/him]@lemmygrad.ml
                link
                fedilink
                English
                arrow-up
                9
                ·
                1 month ago

                The worst part about it is that I was also roughly on their level only 2-3 years ago. I know exactly what they think.

                Almost all of us were some number of years ago, and we know exactly what they think because we used to think them. It’s pretty funny/annoying when they say we’re in an echo chamber/bubble, as if we haven’t been receiving exactly the same indoctrination, education, and propaganda as they our whole lives. Everything they know, we also know, so who’s the one in a bubble?

                • l0tusc0bra@lemmygrad.ml
                  link
                  fedilink
                  English
                  arrow-up
                  8
                  ·
                  edit-2
                  1 month ago

                  Exactly. I never actually say “I heard all of this shit back when Kamala as POTUS was a laughable notion and Biden was considered our saviour from fascism” but I should probably start doing so. These lib cheerleaders have inherited their master’s desire to only acknowledge history if it somehow benefits their short-term goals. Maybe Trump getting elected will prompt them to think about fascism beyond Death Camps and being mean to minorities for fun. Probably not though.

                  • davel [he/him]@lemmygrad.ml
                    link
                    fedilink
                    English
                    arrow-up
                    8
                    ·
                    1 month ago

                    In moments of weakness (or when they’re incorrigibly fascist) I do a little dunking, but I try to think about what rhetoric would have worked on/for past me and use that.

                    Huey P. Newton:

                    I dissuade Party members from putting down people who do not understand. Even people who are unenlightened and seemingly bourgeois should be answered in a polite way. Things should be explained to them as fully as possible. I was turned off by a person who did not want to talk to me because I was not important enough. Maurice just wanted to preach to the converted, who already agreed with him. I try to be cordial, because that way you win people over. You cannot win them over by drawing the line of demarcation, saying you are on this side and I am on the other; that shows a lack of consciousness. After the Black Panther Party was formed, I nearly fell into this error. I could not understand why people were blind to what I saw so clearly. Then I realized that their understanding had to be developed.

              • SadArtemis🏳️‍⚧️@lemmygrad.ml
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                8
                ·
                1 month ago

                I’ve been where they were once myself, as well (several years back now). Killing off the last ignorant seeds of electoralism in me has been a process that probably only really died completely in the later years of Trump, if not during the Biden term (not an American- Canadian- but nowadays I won’t so much as touch that trash, frankly if I did it would probably only be a spite vote for the more “accelerationist” and disruptive domestic party- which in itself would be the opposite of acceleration for the rest of the world as the western regimes as-is have nothing to be salvaged from whatsoever).

                And it’s because I understand these “leftists” that I have no sympathy for them whatsoever. They can either get with the program- or not, and hopefully die with it instead. They can convert, but the rest of the world won’t wait for the slave-owners, the genocidaires, the “golden billion” in their garden to take their time to do so, and right up until they do I have nothing pleasant to say to them or think of them.

                The rising anti-Asian hatred and preparing to destroy the prosperity of China (as an ethnic Chinese) and ASEAN (where my family is from) already had made me bitter and alienated as all hell. Then the outright crusading against Russia and the goosestepping towards yet another front for WW3 simply confirmed that bitterness. But seeing industrial genocide against the Palestinians was truly a complete breaking point; by all means, these scum (liberals) deserve everything they get and more, right up until they learn or die from it. And one way or another I suspect they’ll either learn or die from it, considering how the empire is spiraling, and that can only be a good thing.

                If they want to promote death so much, if they want to promote the so-called “lesser evil” (that is every bit as evil as its counterpart), if they want to “buy time” and “comfort” at the expense of the rest of the world, then they can and should have all the death and evil in the world done unto them, and they can and should choke on it.

                • l0tusc0bra@lemmygrad.ml
                  link
                  fedilink
                  English
                  arrow-up
                  8
                  ·
                  edit-2
                  1 month ago

                  Indeed. I fr think that the past 25 years of seeing chaotic imagery of the middle east on CNN has desensitized the vast majority of North Americans to violence that is outsourced. As someone whose childhood perfectly overlapped with that period, it applied to me too as much as it disgusts me now to admit it. Not an original thought of mine, but the US learned a very valuable lesson after Vietnam which is that as long as conscription is off the table and that type of interventionism happens via an abstraction layer of Proxies, the American public has a vastly higher tolerance for imperialism.

                  The Kamla stans demonstrate this by accepting(!) that some kind of genocide is going to happen and that Trump Is Worse in the reality where he wins. The version that Kamahalah practices is then implicitly more “under control” and better but it’s still a genocide. They are aware of this. They patently accept the reality that genocide must happen for their government and status quo to operate. If they didn’t do this math before endorsing the program then in their own words, caveat emptor.

    • Belly_Beanis [he/him]@hexbear.net
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      4
      ·
      1 month ago

      because we didn’t have any black people

      Yeah that tends to happen when your country doesn’t abduct over 20 million people and take them across an ocean to another continent so they can be used as slaves lmao

      • PocketFishOP
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        1
        ·
        1 month ago

        The country I live in indeed never did any of that. True, I won’t whitewash it and say that it never did again wrong, but we had no colonies. We were often subjected to colonization (in our case, by Austria)