• usa_suxxx [they/them]@hexbear.net
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    There’s not enough ML to try to exclusively date in that pool without being creepy. If they are kind and with a good heart, sure why not. A single person can’t be everything to me.

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    My wife is a lib, and won’t convert despite my best efforts. Her opinions are mostly good, but there are some real dogshit ones. I think it’s a good reminder that people don’t always agree, and you have to find a way to live with that

    We are so happy, she’s the best partner I’ve ever had. I shudder to think what my life would be like if I disqualified her for not being ml

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      It’s not an easy thing to become radicalized and everyone has ther own amount of time they need if they’re going to be eventually.

      What matters more than being a strict theoretically correct Marxist Leninist, is that you’re a person with good base values and empathy, the rest is a challenge of knowledge, effort and being able to break down your own world view.

      There are lots of great humans out there that aren’t and possibly won’t be ML for whatever reason.

  • roux [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.net
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    When we met I was a lib and she was a moderate/conservative. Now I’m ML exploring other leftist schools of thought and she’s a Christian socialist. We’ve been married for like 11 years now.

    It’s funny because most of our ideas overlap but we came to the same point from completely different journeys.

  • NoLeftLeftWhereILive@hexbear.net
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    When I met my partner over 20 years ago we were both pretty much radlibs, for social justice and all that, but pretty well brainwashed by all the red scare.

    In between here we broke up once and I met a Murican guy online who seemed nice, but turned out to be an actual hardcore southern rebublican. I truly found the implications of this out when we sat on a couch talking politics and I casually said: “But if we consider Marx…” At this point the man literally physically backed away from me looking absolutely horrified, it led to a whole thing where I had to explain to him that in my world this is a philosopher who is read in school. It was the wildest experience for me ever. We broke up later, for many reasons and many of them political.

    Got back with my og partner and at the example of our kid I have ended up ML and he is pretty much there now as well. Honestly would never again share my life with someone whose basic values are so far from mine, it was pretty grim.

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    Yes, I ask left-leaning acquaintances out on a date and when we get to the date, it’s really just to distribute the party brochure and convince them to join the local communist party.

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    i don’t date at all but i can’t imagine wanting an intimate relationship with someone who doesn’t agree with or at least approve of my most strongly held convictions and ethics and morality. that sounds like a supremely uncomfortable and likely toxic situation. i’m not so horny and desperate that i’ll get myself into a permanent awkward social situation of eternal self-repression around the ones i trust most, and i’m suuuuuuper horny and desperate.

  • RyanGosling [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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    I do because Marxism is about accepting material reality and the material reality is that I’m not going to spend extra effort trying to find a mythical ML in the US.