• Storm@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    Look. It’s pointless to compare yourself to others. Everyone does things at their own pace, on their own time. Who cares if someone has lost their virginity before you have? Genuinely, it doesn’t fucking matter. Life your own life, and speak your own truth.

    • Hyggyldy@sffa.community
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      1 year ago

      The virginity is less of an issue than 31 years of loneliness. Like, people say you don’t need a relationship to be happy and that’s true, but it really doesn’t fucking help in the slightest. It’s just a pointless platitude from people who don’t understand the pain.

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        1 year ago

        Having been in a long distance relationship during COVID, with times where I couldn’t meet my girlfriend for 12 and 18 months, I know just how the loneliness crushed me and how much happier I am now we’re married and living together.

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          Oof yeah. My husband and I shared a house, but we rarely talked or saw each other during that time because he works in healthcare. We lived in separate parts of the house and didn’t even observe holidays.

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        Men need to be learn to be emotionally intimate with their friends instead of expecting that out of a partner. Loneliness should not be synonymous with being single.

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          1 year ago

          Much like people who think relationship and sex are synonymous, you are vastly oversimplifying the range of human relationships.

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            No, I’m not. You do not need a romantic or sexual relationship to fulfill intimacy needs.

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              Maybe you don’t but many people want a romantic and sexual relationship. There are many things that we don’t need to survive but make our lives vastly more enjoyable. I’ve had long term relationships and times where I’ve been single and while I enjoy my own company and the freedom being single I do miss the closeness of a romantic relationship. Friendships are great but it’s not the same.

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                I do miss the closeness of a romantic relationship. Friendships are great but it’s not the same.

                Get good at being closer to your friends.