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    The wholesome message here is that you have to present your true self to your partner, rather early in the relationship. Eventually, you’re going to become comfortable and start putting less effort into your appearance and behaviors. If it ends up being the case that your partner is not attracted to you in your default state, the relationship is doomed to fail.

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      rather early

      Make that straight away. Be someone who can put in some effort for special occasions (like dates) but never give the impression you are anyone you are not.

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        Maybe not that early, and also not everything.

        When we met, I was obsessed with collecting dead bugs and in retrospect, I kinda sucked at it and it was gross. I didn’t tell her about it until a few years later and she laughed at it. But had I told her about it at the start, I dunno.

        My wife also hid her Tarot cards collection. For good reason too… At the time, I was extremely bitter at the state of Collectable card games and was trashing everything. But a few years later when I wasn’t such an asshole about it, I accepted her hobby.

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        I find that it’s best to restrain my excessive (pathological, frankly) flatulence until at least the 4th date. I definitely do attempt to falsely present myself as someone who lacks excessive gas.

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          Dutch ovened my now wife on our third date like 16 years ago

          broke her brain for a couple of minutes while she tried to be pissed and shocked but couldn’t stop laughing lol

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    In my 20s, this girl I met was vomiting from both ends from a bad night of partying, and I was there taking care of her. She ugly-cried about how other guys left her in her mess.

    We’ve been married for more than a decade.

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    pyjama’s, glasses, retainers, no make up

    if that’s the worst she can do I’d marry her too

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    I find comfy PJs to be very sexy. You can have all the fancy bedroom decor you want but if your Sims aren’t relaxed they’re not gonna make whoopie.

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    If there’s a chance of sex I don’t think the average male is going to care if you wear grinch pyjamas.

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    I was hanging out with this woman and we made some boffer swords. Now, these are soft… ish. They’re made from half-inch PVC with foam pool noodle on top and the whole thing wrapped in duct tape. You can take a direct hit from one of these without it seriously injuring you, but it’s not exactly pleasant. She had little to no experience with larping, but we took them out on the driveway and went at it a bit. I accidentally, and I really want to emphasize that, accidentally hit her full in the face with this foam bat. I apologized and we went again… and then I full-on hit her in the face again. And I apologized, and she smiled, and we continued to have a good time sword fighting.

    So anyway, we got married and our daughter is almost five now.

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    If I’m to be straightforward, I’m not too much for the all dolled up look. That’s for show, a moment. Give me a fresh out of bed look: the messed hair, the puffy eyes, the morning breath, even that involuntary relief fart on the toilet. That’s the real person under all the veneer.

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    I mean that’s a level of honesty most people crave though. It takes a lot of self worth and security to be that honest too.

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    I mean that’s basically the “after sex” look so yes it works but perhaps for the wrong reason lol

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    Oh God once I had a “status migraine” (if you don’t know don’t ask you don’t want to know) and had to go to my doctor to get shot up with an elephant’s worth of painkillers to sort of take the edge off and knock me out and stuff to stop me from puking, and they let my boyfriend in while I was literally bent over the table with my pants down getting a shot in my butt, vomiting. Not my husband, or other family member. My boyfriend. That doctor was no respecter of medical privacy, that’s for sure.

    We are married now, for years. And he does say that cozy clothes are sexy clothes. Also socks that go past the knee, lol.