The wholesome message here is that you have to present your true self to your partner, rather early in the relationship. Eventually, you’re going to become comfortable and start putting less effort into your appearance and behaviors. If it ends up being the case that your partner is not attracted to you in your default state, the relationship is doomed to fail.
Make that straight away. Be someone who can put in some effort for special occasions (like dates) but never give the impression you are anyone you are not.
When we met, I was obsessed with collecting dead bugs and in retrospect, I kinda sucked at it and it was gross. I didn’t tell her about it until a few years later and she laughed at it. But had I told her about it at the start, I dunno.
My wife also hid her Tarot cards collection. For good reason too… At the time, I was extremely bitter at the state of Collectable card games and was trashing everything. But a few years later when I wasn’t such an asshole about it, I accepted her hobby.
I find that it’s best to restrain my excessive (pathological, frankly) flatulence until at least the 4th date. I definitely do attempt to falsely present myself as someone who lacks excessive gas.
The wholesome message here is that you have to present your true self to your partner, rather early in the relationship. Eventually, you’re going to become comfortable and start putting less effort into your appearance and behaviors. If it ends up being the case that your partner is not attracted to you in your default state, the relationship is doomed to fail.
Make that straight away. Be someone who can put in some effort for special occasions (like dates) but never give the impression you are anyone you are not.
Maybe not that early, and also not everything.
When we met, I was obsessed with collecting dead bugs and in retrospect, I kinda sucked at it and it was gross. I didn’t tell her about it until a few years later and she laughed at it. But had I told her about it at the start, I dunno.
My wife also hid her Tarot cards collection. For good reason too… At the time, I was extremely bitter at the state of Collectable card games and was trashing everything. But a few years later when I wasn’t such an asshole about it, I accepted her hobby.
I find that it’s best to restrain my excessive (pathological, frankly) flatulence until at least the 4th date. I definitely do attempt to falsely present myself as someone who lacks excessive gas.
Dutch ovened my now wife on our third date like 16 years ago
broke her brain for a couple of minutes while she tried to be pissed and shocked but couldn’t stop laughing lol