“It’s ok babe, I’m good, my thighs are sore.”
“No, I’m gonna get you off tonight!”
Sometimes the kind thing to do is just fake it. It doesn’t mean the sex was bad, it doesn’t mean I wasn’t satisfied. But getting to the Big O is often times just too much trouble.
If the follow up to you saying you’re done is them demanding to keep going, that is coercive and fucked up. I wouldn’t suggest lying in response unless you never plan to see them again, though, or if you feel safe and plan to address it later. It’s just as fucked up to keep up with the lie afterwards as it is to be coercive, imo. Both play coercive, indirect ways of refusing respect, and the tit-for-tat dynamic risks setting up a breeding grounds of resentment for at least the person maintaining a lie. It also denies the coercive person the opportunity for growth.
The balls often get neglected. Give them a little gentle attention too. Basically, do the kind of things that would feel good if done to your breasts (cupping them, light scratches and tickles, a gentile squeeze, a medium tug, ect.). Combined with a halfway decent stroking or sucking, it’ll take care of most guys in pretty short order. Any other questions you don’t want to ask someone who you’ll have to see again? Happy to educate. I’m a male nurse if that somehow makes it less weird.
TMI warning, but I actually prefer this everytime I fuck now, having my balls cupped and squeezed, it makes sex so much better. It’s just constant stimulation when going for the in-stroke and out-stroke, and then it feels great when nutting.
Unfortunately, it can sometimes depend on the shape of a woman’s body if she can easily do it. If a woman has a dump truck ass, she may not be able to reach around her phat ass to get your balls. I wish there was something I could wear in that situation that felt the same, but I don’t know that a testicle pouch would really do it. Plus, it’d be weird to ask a partner to let me wear it before sex.
Sometimes you just want the fucking to end but he won’t give up.
Have you heard about that wild thing you can do called “communication”
“It’s ok babe, I’m good, my thighs are sore.”
“No, I’m gonna get you off tonight!”
Sometimes the kind thing to do is just fake it. It doesn’t mean the sex was bad, it doesn’t mean I wasn’t satisfied. But getting to the Big O is often times just too much trouble.
Okay but if that’s his response then put your foot down and tell him in no uncertain terms that you are finished
If the follow up to you saying you’re done is them demanding to keep going, that is coercive and fucked up. I wouldn’t suggest lying in response unless you never plan to see them again, though, or if you feel safe and plan to address it later. It’s just as fucked up to keep up with the lie afterwards as it is to be coercive, imo. Both play coercive, indirect ways of refusing respect, and the tit-for-tat dynamic risks setting up a breeding grounds of resentment for at least the person maintaining a lie. It also denies the coercive person the opportunity for growth.
Tell him it’s not going to happen. It’s okay if it doesn’t. The important part is he tried.
I keep a box of “You Tried!” stickers in my nightstand for this very reason
Squeezing balls make wonders or so I heard.
As someone without balls, can you explain?
The balls often get neglected. Give them a little gentle attention too. Basically, do the kind of things that would feel good if done to your breasts (cupping them, light scratches and tickles, a gentile squeeze, a medium tug, ect.). Combined with a halfway decent stroking or sucking, it’ll take care of most guys in pretty short order. Any other questions you don’t want to ask someone who you’ll have to see again? Happy to educate. I’m a male nurse if that somehow makes it less weird.
Absolutely none of that feels good to breasts in my experience, but thank you for the info!
TMI warning, but I actually prefer this everytime I fuck now, having my balls cupped and squeezed, it makes sex so much better. It’s just constant stimulation when going for the in-stroke and out-stroke, and then it feels great when nutting.
Unfortunately, it can sometimes depend on the shape of a woman’s body if she can easily do it. If a woman has a dump truck ass, she may not be able to reach around her phat ass to get your balls. I wish there was something I could wear in that situation that felt the same, but I don’t know that a testicle pouch would really do it. Plus, it’d be weird to ask a partner to let me wear it before sex.
She has a what now?
FACT!