Yeah I know dating apps bad etc

I paid 17 dollars for the week pass allowing me unlimited likes 💀 of course because I’m desperate and they force you into that choice because using it for free you only get 5 free likes a day lmao. The problem is NOBODY fucking responds back to my messages, I’ve had 2 conversations out of 20 matches, one of the convos died after I asked them out, the other convo just ended abruptly for no apparent reason. It’s really demoralizing to say the least but I just don’t understand, if they don’t like me and accidentally sent a like they should just unmatch right away but they don’t.

The future is grim. How does anyone meet anyone anymore?

  • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    Idk I get lots of likes and everything but guys literally just won’t ask me on a date? I’ll say something like “Oh I wanna meet first haha just to know you’re not a crazy person and stuff” and they’re like “haha yeah ok’” and then never actually plan a fucking date. Like come on.

    On the other hand I have met multiple friends on dating apps lol. But that’s way less pressure. I did meet a very long term partner on an app too I’ve had luck with them, I’m just honestly frustrated with how the men are, and how they basically want to fuck and don’t want to put any basic legwork in.

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        14 hours ago

        Well I’m always interested in women but I’ve always dated women. Would like to try dating men. Who all seem very interested until they have to do literally any kind of thinking or work… Thing though is I don’t accept this as expecting too much, I’ve done this stuff many times in my life when I was a guy. And it wasn’t hard.

        That being said I think I exist in a weird spot right now. I think some guys see me really as like a fem boy or something and are acting out some kind of chaser or gay fantasies, and as a result don’t want to be seen with me in public. Or my vibe is a bit too masc for them… it’s like I can talk to lots of people but nothing ever happens unless I make it happen. No one else is making it happen at all…

        Ofc it’s very easy to meet other trans women. It’s now more difficult with cis women though, something I’ve noticed. I don’t really get that but whatever lol