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    Imagine bullying someone because they read a book.

    They should be thankful the school didn’t punish the class for not doing the assignment.

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      I was home schooled,* and occasionally I wish I had gone to public school, because I missed out on a lot of cultural touchstones, but then I’m reminded that kids are fucking horrible to other kids at any sign of differentness, and I was a fat, nerdy, gay bookworm, so, yeah, I’m good with the way things shook out. Haha

      *Got a great education, not a religious nutjob, was not raised by right wing zealots.

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        Home schooled kids on average are smarter. Public schools tend to lower their standards to get a certain percentage of students to pass.

        Plus I bet your teacher was hot.

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          Considering half the home schooled kids are kept for indoctrination and/or abuse purposes, I doubt it.

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            Considering they won’t even hold kids back a grade here anymore, I could see it. But I wouldn’t be surprised if the curve of home schooled kid intelligence has two peaks, one corresponding to parents who make their best effort and another corresponding to the ones you’re talking about.

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              Yup

              Homeschooling: A comprehensive survey of the research, Robert Kunzman, Milton Gaither Other Education-the journal of educational alternatives 2 (1), 4-59, 2013

              "A final consistent finding in the literature on academic achievement is that parental background matters very much in homeschooler achievement. Belfield (2005) found greater variance in SAT scores by family background among homeschoolers than among institutionally-schooled students. Boulter’s (1999) longitudinal sample of 110 students whose parents averaged only 13 years of education found a consistent pattern of gradual decline in achievement scores the longer a child remained homeschooled, a result she attributed to the relatively low levels of parent education in her sample. Medlin’s (1994) study of 36 homeschoolers found a significant relationship between mother’s educational level and child’s achievement score. Kunzman’s (2009a) qualitative study of several Christian homeschooling families found dramatic differences in instructional quality correlated with parent educational background. "

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                There’s another bias in that kids with educated parents in public school will also have higher grades on average than the average public school kid. I don’t know how much that might affect conclusions. It doesn’t seem necessary to make the point.

                I have no doubt that a private tutor can outperform a public school, but it takes a number of factors, and it’s more difficult to outperform public school combined with that same personal, educated tutor.

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            That’s why I added all the stuff in the footnote. Haha. When I was a kid, we did home schooling because the area we were initially living had a lot of trouble of with knives and guns in the school, and then we started moving around so much it wasn’t feasible to really get a decent education at a new school ever several months.

            But the books that the state of Virginia told my mom to get ended up being a beka books, creationist nonsense. When my mom realized what they were she started getting me text books from library (we had settled down to only moving within the Hampton roads area by then). That indoctrination and shitty education is so rampant within homeschooling that even the state has given up on recommending decent material.

            All that said, my mom (who, just to throw it out there because of comments downstream, did not finish highschool) was an amazing teacher. She instilled a love of learning in her kids, but honestly the most important thing I got from my education was learning how to learn. I feel like other kids learned how to pass tests, I learned how to absorb information and retain it, and how to actually find the information I need.

            I also didn’t take summers off, so I finished 12th at 14, which was, frankly, really fucking awesome. Lol. I used to get through an entire day’s worth of course work before noon, and then I got to what we called free research. Which was basically “you can use the computer until 5pm, but it has to be at least tangentially educational.” My God I read so much Wikipedia.

            I wish I could be a proponent of homeschooling, because I know how fantastic it can be. But I can’t, because the bad parents make it so, so much worse than anything that should be acceptable. We used to go to homeschool clubs, and even group teach (basically a class run by one of the parents with 15 or so kids, mostly as a way to get the other parents a few hours of free time), but had to stop because I would get in trouble with the other parents for saying things like “evolution” or on one occasion how condoms are a great way to prevent STDs. It sometimes felt like we were entirely alone in having a decent education in that system. We weren’t, we met many, many other families with decent homeschooling techniques and actual science classes. But the ones who weren’t? They were absolutely the loudest.

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          Plus I bet your teacher was hot.

          Funny story, my dad was a carnie for a brief time, and then I acted a good bit as a kid in those true crime shows from the late 90s and early 00s. On both occasions I had a tutor/teacher instead of genuine/standard homeschooling. I got a shittier education both of those times, but both times I had the fucking hottest teachers. The first I didn’t realize was a gay crush, because I was too young, but the second I was old enough to realize what the feelings were, but not out enough to myself to actually admit them to myself. But my God, so sexy. I definitely understand the “crush on teacher” thing haha

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      Imagine bullying someone because they read a book.

      Because anon was different. He was the only one who read the book. That’s why.

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        And that works with everything:

        • only rich kid
        • only poor kid
        • only athletic kid
        • only non-athletic kid

        It literally doesn’t matter what the metric is, if you’re different, you’ll be punished.

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        Maybe also because he made them feel dumb as they didn’t have the expected knowledge. So they took revenge for their fragile egos.

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    I’m sorry anon but they probably were gonna bully you regardless

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      It’s Anon’s parents fault for not teaching him how to deal with bullies.
      You should talk to them and explain that what they are doing hurts your feelings!
      Yeah no, fuck up the next guy who calls you ass-worm, bite and scratch if you can’t knock them down, make sure they remember that fucking with you bears consequences. Push a stick to their asses while you scream “ass-worm, huh?!”

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        Yup. Took my kids to an anti-bullying session at the local karate school, and while their presentation was a bit more mild, it had the same impact. Basically:

        1. fists up and be loud
        2. block any attacks and push them back while also being loud
        3. (implied) if they don’t stop, let 'em have it (they taught some kicks)

        This applies as well if you see someone else getting bullied. The main goal here is to scare the crap out of them so they leave you alone.

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          Knocking him down won the first fight. I wanted to win all the next ones, too, right then, so they’d leave me alone.

          —Ender Wiggin, Ender’s Game, by Orson Scott Card

          P.S. This attitude led Ender to >!accidentally genocide an entire sentient alien species.!<

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        Where I’m from originally, it’s perfectly fine to hit someone for bullying you. Nine times out of ten the bully is weak him/herself and cowers if you “return in kind” of how they treat you. I don’t know why many Westerners are reluctant to hit a bully. But my guess is that the fear of litigation is the bigger fear.

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          Because were taught that violence is wrong and that we should talk through everything, not “stoop to their level”. Incidentally that also allows the elite to stay in power without getting guillotined.

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      Yeah if someone called me that I’d just accuse them of being too stupid to read and then talk real slow to them.

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    This happened in my art class once. Our kooky art teacher invited an ex-student in without any prior warning and we were supposed to ask him questions on his art (he did book covers).

    Silence, no one was having this shit. Out of pity I asked him questions on some tiny details I noticed on the spot. More silence, I ask about different tiny details. And so forth.

    I’ve realised that there’s a large portion of the populace that are perfectly comfortable in excruciating silence if it’s not at their expense.

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    Just imagine this with the books I had to read in school. Yes, I would have read it, I’m a fast reader, so a bad book does not waste too much time. On the other hand, I would have no problems with grilling the author over the shit he or she wrote. Because basically every book we had to read for school was crap. There are so many good books, books that would spark interest and passion for reading more, but somehow they had selected the worst of the worst back then, aimed at making children reel in horror when they see books and vow never to touch a book again after school.

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      Part of it is also what they make you do to the book. I remember one exercise involving a book of our choice and of course I selected one I already liked at the time. The analysis itself tends to make a book a lot less fun.

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      Huh. I guess my experience was better I remember reading My Side of the Mountain and The Giver, among other things. Usually pretty decent reads though.

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        I read The Giver as an adult, and I can absolutely confirm it was good. I also recall the books I was required to read were pretty good, but I didn’t like them at the time because they were required.

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          I always assumed that the kid and the baby die at the end, but then I guess the author wrote a second book just to make everyone feel better.