• Kalysta@lemm.ee
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    1 month ago

    Pretty sure being in a long term relationship means you’ve moved on from small talk a long time ago.

    I don’t want to talk with my wife about the weather, we have more important shit to worry about unless we’re literally having to dodge a tornado.

    Small talk is for strangers.

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      1 month ago

      Yup. And if we don’t have anything more important to talk about, we’ll just cuddle. Silence is absolutely fine with people you’re comfortable with.

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        1 month ago

        Huh.

        Wife and I talk ALL the time about anything and everything, be it the weather, how weather works, of free will exists, the kids, if kids exists, you name it…

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          Maybe you’re both extroverts?

          We’re both introverts, so we’re totally comfortable just sitting next to each other reading different books, or cuddling on a cold winter night. Sometimes we talk about random stuff, but quite often we’re exhausted from dealing with other people but still want that proximity.

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            20 days ago

            She’s extroverted as hell, I’m introverted as hell. Put together though, we talk like there is no tomorrow

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      1 month ago

      If you went outside and the weather was pleasant you’d never mention it to your wife? Never say anything like “have you been outside? It’s so nice today!”

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        Genuine appreciation for the weather enough to declare it to those around you isn’t small talk. Small talk is generic filler dialogue you do as a formality.

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          If you’re being that reductive about the definition of small talk then I don’t think small talk exists between couples who have known each other for a long time because you’re just regular talking.