• Flying Squid@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    I’m able to make smalltalk. I just don’t enjoy it, so I avoid it when I can.

    And my wife and I don’t engage in smalltalk. We talk about what we actually care about. Seems to have worked fine for the past 24 years.

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      2 months ago

      Pretty much.

      I don’t wake up and ask my wife, “How’s the weather?” Or “Did you see that game last night?”

      We talk about real shit. Like yesterday, we had a long conversation about what we would do with a tamed bear.

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        2 months ago

        Can confirm, I hold our evenings together laying in bed next to each other reading different books or whatever in high esteem. We’re not disfunctional, we’re just introverted, though we like each other’s company.

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          2 months ago

          I thought I was in my messaging app when I read the first sentences and was confused. I thought I was included in the “our evenings” 😆

          That sounds lovely and relatable. I let my affection show in glances etc too or a brief hand on the shoulder. Whatever feels authentic at the time.