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    Woah, hold on. There’s something here.

    It’s a business transaction, sure. But the social interaction, while to us seems like sarcastic exaggerating, is humorous complimenting. In order to do that, it has to be language you can use frequently and honestly.

    This is doing wonders for his mental health, likely because part of his thoughts are “what could I say to make ME feel more complimented than that.” He’s actively using positive self talk unconsciously.

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      And he gave the dude a present only to take a picture and put it on the Internet

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        There it is, the negative sarcastic tone I’m used to on the internet. I got a weird warm feeling reading all that stuff in front of your comment. Thank you for putting me down to reality again. Well done, sir.

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          What sarcasm? That was a straight forward statement. Where I’m from that’s a pretty rude thing to do.

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            Eh, I can understand your outlook when it’s something done specifically to post it to the internet, like when people film themselves giving money to the homeless, but the guy pretty clearly looks happy to have his pistachios; I’d imagine the story is real, and this guy just wanted to share it, even if there was a less altruistic undertone of getting positive attention online.

            And at the end of the day, there’s a net good to doing things like giving people gifts and giving homeless people some money to help them out, even if done entirely for the sake of internet popularity. I like to focus more on whether the person being helped is thankful for it, and if they are, I just focus on that rather than the guy trying to make himself look good for doing it.

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        BossDJ, I want to make sure you’re ok. This cynical outlook isn’t like you. Please act like the usual positive MC I know you are.

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        They probably gave him a present because they’re friends. People post their friends on the internet.

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        Or he took a picture to remember the moment. Like people do since before the Internet.

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      It is (almost) everywhere and anywhere you choose to reach across and make it happen friend. Try it out and see, I bet you will not be disappointed!

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    The aggressive compliments are one of the things I’ve always appreciated about middle eastern cultures. Does it feel silly if you aren’t used to it? Of course. But it’s just nice to be around and enjoyable to reciprocate

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    During one of the lowest ebbs in my life, I subconsciously and unknowingly sustained myself simply by buying one extra dessert (ice cream, chocolate, something sweet and inocuous) for the doormen at my building. This small act of human bonding would give me enough energy to face tomorrow without dreading it, and little by little I was able to dig myself out of a deep hole.

    The point of this parable is, do not underestimate the value of human connection! A very small act may turn someone’s day around and that energy is reflected back to you in droves.

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      An older lady was trying to push two carts at the same time out of a warehouse club store. I was just carrying TP by hand, so I offered to push her extra cart.

      She called me her bodyguard. I ascended immediately to heaven.

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        Love it, dude a guy (recent stroke survivor) cried when I helped him with a flat of water 😊

        Helping people can be the most selfish thing you can do hehe

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      We have Syrian, Iraqi, and others who have recently come to our country. (When I say we and our I also mean them)

      My fence is covered in grape leaves from about April to September. I get lots of people around the neighbourhood that come by to take them.

      Last year one old dude came and started picking them. I got up to say hello.

      He spoke no English.

      He said some things and made some gestures and I kinda got the gist.

      Went inside got him some water and a cloth.

      He drank and wiped his hands.

      Shook my hand and said habibi.

      I almost cried.

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      I never thought about how seldom men get compliments and stuff until some random girl complimented my thick eyebrows 😂

      I will never forget that ego boost, was flying high for days lol

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        Some girl said I had nice eyelashes 12 years ago. I still bring up that at least once a year.

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      I’m friends with two siblings who frequently refer to any/all of their friends as ‘habibi’ and it makes me feel warm fuzzies every time.

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    I love this, my quick stop guy smiles whenever I walk in, but he doesn’t speak much English. I’d love to get him pistachios

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      He probably understands much more than what he can say, production is always the hardest part of language learning. I’m sure saying something nice with a smile is unlikely to be taken the wrong way.

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    I swear first generation immigrants are the nicest people. So much charisma

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    Is that some kind of eastern or muslim-aligned thing, or maybe have something with a climate? In western Russia you sometimes meet (mostly elderly) caucasian dudes from eastern parts and bordering countries who talk a little like that, while natives seldom talk at all besides what’s needed. Is that some shared cultural custom in the region?

    I kinda like that.

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      I think it is a Middle Eastern thing. Something like cultural hospitality and the connection of social/community and economic ties. “Business is personal” is how I heard a friend who was in Iraq say it.

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    My dad has an Iraqi guy who cuts his hair and my dad is so loyal to him. He always talks so highly of him and will never go anywhere else. Its extra funny because he’s always hated getting his haircut and seen it as an annoyance.