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  • ashinadash [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    3 months ago

    I guess when you hit 2 years into transition, the exciting stuff is ongoing or has already occurred.

    I feel crusty and aged reading this yes-honey-left

    Cool and exciting things can still happen many years into transition ofc, both in physical and internal, self terms. You could always drone on about top surgery too, but I thought at one point I was “done and boring and can’t relate”, and I’m still here lol

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        3 months ago

        To be fair I also had a quantum collapse resident to my brain re: gender around that time, so basil-anxious-smile that’s not an unreasonable assumption imo.

        Aside from that though, I mostly think about being trans a lot because I like it and it’s fucken awsum. You might be able to tell given half my posting is only tangentially trans related, but I can also let it fall into the background as a comfortable hum. Idk if I’ll have more huge revelations, but I might discover more about what makes my funny gender tick! And I love trans posting trans-heart

    • SnowySkyes [she/her]@hexbear.netM
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      3 months ago

      Perhaps I’m just a smidgen myopic on the matter. What I mean is that the big changes seem to have completed. I know I’m not done yet, but the big picture has more or less fallen into place and it’s just a matter of touching it up to get it perfect. Kinda like edge highlighting a miniature. It’s acceptable as is, but let’s make it really nice.

      I know I droned on about my bottom surgery in the weeks leading up to it. It just kinda feels like I’m bragging and throwing it in people’s faces. Hence the edit on the original post. I had an event happen in college that really pounded out the idea of bragging or droning on about oneself. I try to avoid it as much as I can, as hard as it can be when one’s autistic. Perhaps just avoiding talking about myself in a positive manner.

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        3 months ago

        I’m pre everything, as you might remember. I don’t feel like you are bragging or throwing it in my face. I am really happy for you, I feel really happy when you talk about the good things happening for you, and seeing trans people like you be happy fills me with hope for my future.

        Please don’t stop talking about yourself in a positive way.

        • SnowySkyes [she/her]@hexbear.netM
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          3 months ago

          It’s hard to want to after the negative experiences I’ve had in the past. I used to be an egotistical little shit, and I can see how awful it made other people view me. I just don’t want to revert to that person.

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        3 months ago

        just want to agree with other responses again and say this limitation you’re putting on yourself seems very much self-imposed, because I think people here are just going to be happy for you (even if everyone’s progress and situation is a bit different). I didn’t see you talking about bottom surgery as droning on, I saw it as something good you were excited about. it is nice that you’re mindful of other people’s situations, but there doesn’t need to be a guilt that you’re doing well. after all, feeling lost after checking the big boxes of transition and another sense of loss you’ve been feeling and posted about are both completely valid and difficult to work through

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        3 months ago

        “Myopic”, you are only two years into it tbf =) But yeah that’s a fair perception of your own situation, I think. You might try different lighting that makes the miniature look way different or reveals part of the paint you’ve never seen, but you also might not Idk!

        Talking about yourself is cool, if it’s bragging I’m ridiculously self centered 'cause I use this place like livejournal sometimes. Lots of people do, so fwiw I think it’d be super fine to do. It’s probably good to keep in mind that people are gonna have mixed feelings 'cause bottom surgery is out of reach for many, but I also don’t think that precludes “droning on” about it if you want, if it’s important to you. Also talk about yourself in a positive manner wtf >:|

          • ashinadash [she/her]@hexbear.net
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            3 months ago

            Well y’know, that’s what self crit is for, and people are nice in this thread so I doubt anyone will obliterate you about it. Like Yor said you are allowed to talk positively about yourself!