Can we all stop the in-fighting for a minute and realise how awesome the platform we are on is?
We are forming communities on the realized image of the internet that we were told we would have back in the 80s and 90s.
You can make your own home on the web and have your own niche community, not owned by any corporation, while still being connected to the wider internet.
This feels like something out of a sci-fi movie.
Best to look at federated instances as more official, set-in-stone subreddits. They all (usually) have rules and most of the time the instance is not responsible for a single person doing actions like that. If a kick or ban is also swiftly given, that usually also voids the instance owners of any illegal content.