• RadicalEagle@lemmy.world
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      I think you can “love” someone without tolerating their nonsense. It’s all about being willing to find a consensual way of interacting. Theoretically it may be impossible, but we can still try.

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        8 months ago

        Ironically this is the whole ‘love the sinner, not the sin’ bit that Christians love to use to excuse their own intolerance.

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          Yeah, I think a lot of modern Christians are unaware of how masochistic and sadistic they really are. They get so hung up on the idea that they have a “get out of jail free” card that it justifies all the rest of their behavior, even when that behavior is explicitly called out in their manual lol

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        I have an ex who cheated on me. I’m not holding on to anger about it, I do honestly hope they’ve found happiness, but I want nothing to do with them again and if they showed up at my door I would tell them to leave.

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      Yeah, the paradox of tolerance.

      My favorite solution that I’ve heard, is to treat tolerance not as a moral imperative, but rather as a social contract.
      Anyone who is tolerant will have tolerance extended to them. Those who are intolerant, on the other hand, can fuck right off.

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        Yes, I’ve never really seen the paradox as a paradox for that reason. The question, rather, should be what precisely we require from the social contract. The old question of “where is the line at which point my freedom impacts your freedom”. But no matter where that line is, it means that if someone spews hate, you’re allowed to respond in kind

        (Morally, that is. If it’s covered by law then legally it should be handled through the justice system and responding in kind would fall under vigilante justice)

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        Secularly everything has to be a social contract because there is no moral authority.

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          Well, for your own moral behaviour, you’d be the authority…

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        They did that in east europe (fucking off), founded ISIS, flooded an area with drugs and overran it.

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        No I’m pretty sure its more about telling them everything that sucks about them is totally fine and even good actually.

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          It’s been 2000 years, how have we not gotten the hang of this already

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            Pretty sure love is more than 2000 years old.

            Unless you believe in incredibly-young-earth creationism, where the OP and all your memories older than dinner last night are just a lie planted here by god to trick us into thinking the world is more than 16 hours old.

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                  I’m talking about interpretation of Jesus’ words (•-•")

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                    Dude we don’t even know if he existed, and even if he did we know he wasn’t even the coolest guy the romans executed on a cross.