I am very comftable with he/him pronouns. Always was but recently I noticed that while I don’t go out of my way to use them I’m also fine with they/them pronouns being used on me.

It could be a phase but I’m not sure. It could also be that I tend to use they/them as an alternative in. I’m confused

  • BicyclejohnOP
    4·
    2 years ago

    What other info is needed. Don’t know how to handle this.

    To make it clear I still want to be masculine to an extent. But I do like some not masc things

    • vis4valentine
      3·
      2 years ago

      whatever you think might be ok to open up about. Like, why you feel like They/Them fit you better? Do you think like don’t fit into ur gender assigned at birth? What it something that makes you question ur gender? and what might give you some form of euphoria?

      • BicyclejohnOP
        3·
        2 years ago

        I don’t think they them van replace them. I wouldn’t want that. I fit with my assigned gender.Questioning because I don’tmind they them and like bracelets and stuff. Don’t have any disphoria or euphoria.

        Would like to try nail polish for some reason. Used to do it when I was like 7.

        • vis4valentine
          4·
          2 years ago

          That is Ok, sounds like ur cis with some aesthetic preferences and that’s ok. You can try out they/them with some friends and you can see if it sticks with you. Plenty of cis guys have their ears pierced, wear bracelets, have nair polish, dye their air, use eyeliner, etc. Feel free to experiment with out appearance in a way that makes you feel comfortable. Best of luck.

            • vis4valentine
              1·
              2 years ago

              It’s ok. It might take a while until you fully realize ur identity, it’s kind of a painful thing but you always become confident after trying out and finding out how you really feel. Enjoy the journey haha.

              • BicyclejohnOP
                1·
                2 years ago

                Good luck. I probably an cis, might not be. I heard of the label demiboy that kicked off this crisis but that’s probably overreaction

                • vis4valentine
                  1·
                  2 years ago

                  That’s ok. Labels are a way to help us define ourselves and understand ourselves. You don’t need to strictly fit into a certain label to identify as yourself in a certain way. When I started questioning, I said I was “cisn’t” until I found out my identity. Take your time and let it rest in your head.

                  Here you have some useful resources in the Gender Disphoria Bible.